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Posted by u/synu 3 years ago
Ask HN: Has anyone started over outside of tech?
Some days I think that I just want to basically check out of technology on a day to day basis and either develop a skill I have or learn a new one and work maybe part or full-time doing something totally different. Something totally unrelated to sitting in front of a computer.

Thanks to tech I have a lot of savings. Not enough to retire on early, though maybe starting to be fairly close, so I feel like I could do something like this in the next few years fairly safely, and I wouldn't feel as much the loss of income if I didn't have the savings.

Has anyone here done this and have a story to share, either positive or negative? What did you switch to? How did it work out?

artagnon · 3 years ago
I used to work as a compiler engineer in the US for several years, before deciding to try starting over at the age of 30, in pure mathematics. I moved from the US to Paris in pursuit of an affordable mathematics education, and spent two years in a Masters program. I did have a considerable amount of savings, but it was very risky nevertheless: if it didn't work out, I'd be out-of-touch with compilers, and it would be hard to interview again, with a considerable career gap in my résumé.

For various reasons, mathematics didn't work out, and I was forced to interview again. Fortunately, I did manage to find a job as a compiler engineer again, and will be moving to London soon.

Now, the price of my adventure was quite steep. I uprooted my life when I moved from the US to Paris (especially because I didn't know French at the time), and the upcoming move to London will once again be difficult. I nearly halved my savings, by studying mathematics at my own expense, and will be back to earning the equivalent of my starting salary in the US.

However, I'm an adventurous person, and view my experience in positive light. I'd been wanting to study Jacob Lurie's books for the longest time, and I finally did it. I worked on a mathematical manuscript, which is now up on arXiv [1], and on a type theory project which has been submitted to LICS '23 [2]. I've had a good life in Paris, and my French is decent.

There's the larger philosophical question of "What is a life well-lived?", and for me, the answer is to pursue those things that you're truly passionate about, even if it doesn't work out.

[1]: https://arxiv.org/abs/2211.09652

[2]: https://artagnon.com/logic/νType.pdf

bshipp · 3 years ago
I like this response very much. I'm in my mid-40s now and worked in many different sectors and positions before ending up in my current career. Even negative experiences, such as washing out as an air traffic controller after 2 years, have been beneficial in my current position. First, they provide some humility and empathy toward people who are struggling and, secondly, they give me alternative lenses toward viewing problems that I'd not have had otherwise. It's one thing to model a logistics problem and another to have driven a tractor trailer or worked as an air traffic controller and understand the practical implications of a solution.
toyg · 3 years ago
> First, they provide some humility and empathy toward people who are struggling and, secondly, they give me alternative lenses toward viewing problems

... and third, they give me a kick in the backside when I feel whiny and complacent. "Oh, so you're pissed because your bonus was 2k instead of 2.5k? Well, if you were still washing dishes like back then, there would be no bonus at all..."

barefeg · 3 years ago
Sounds like an interesting path you’ve taken. Do you have any memoirs or blog post about it?

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resource0x · 3 years ago
"If you don’t have [nice things], they can mean a great deal to you. When you do have them, they mean nothing.

To me, the unhappiest people in the world are those in the watering places, the international watering places, the south coast of France and Newport and Palm Springs and Palm Beach. Going to parties every night, playing golf every afternoon, then bridge. Drinking too much, talking too much, thinking too little. Retired. No purpose.

I know there are those who would totally disagree and say, ‘If I could just be a millionaire, that would be the most wonderful thing. If I could just not have to work every day. If I could be out fishing or hunting or playing golf or traveling, that would be the most wonderful life in the world.’

They don’t know life. Because what makes life mean something is purpose. A goal. The battle. The struggle. Even if you don’t win it."

-- Richard Nixon

whateverman23 · 3 years ago
Sounds good, doesn't actually mean much. It's just an extended version of "money doesn't buy happiness".

Money buys the ability to do whatever you want. It buys you the ability to take what would normally be big risks. It also buys you the ability to live a sad but otherwise comfortable life on a beach.

Money bought the person you responded to the ability to travel the world and study math, instead of worrying about getting food on the table or taking care of family.

Denying this is one of the most ignorant things people with money can do. It's the core of many problems in society, as it's directly related to the inability for many in power to empathize with people who are less fortunate.

ewhanley · 3 years ago
This sounds like a total win. You studied what you wanted, didn't completely wipe out your finances, and successfully re-opened a door you thought may have been permanently closed. I view self actualization as a far more important component of a life well-lived than your savings balance.
sleton38234234 · 3 years ago
but he's back to where he started in the beginning. I didn't sound like there was any more self actualization, after he went back.
martopix · 3 years ago
Beautiful answer -- why would you just accumulate savings without using them for living an interesting life? It's worth taking risks. I'm considering doing something of the sort, probably much less risky actually.
shigawire · 3 years ago
>why would you just accumulate savings without using them for living an interesting life?

Having kids. Not that you have to do this with kids, but it is a reason

bawolff · 3 years ago
Even with the ending of your story being "it didn't work out", i can't help but feel envious.
A4ET8a8uTh0 · 3 years ago
The longer I live, the more I subscribe to this view. My uncle was a trucker. He lived a weird life full crazy adventures and he loved it. Yes, it did bring pain, loneliness and eventual breakup of his family unit, but I always found him in high spirits. Bad things happen, but he was able to shrug those off partially because he knew what he was doing let him enjoy life a lot more despite being somewhat unstable.
MrBuddyCasino · 3 years ago
I'm not sure I follow.

Me, an interviewer: "so you know compilers, great start on monday"

Also me: "so you know compilers and have studied math on top, sorry son thats a no from me"

bilsbie · 3 years ago
Tech interviews expect esoteric minutia to be on the top of your mind and easily recallable. You also must be able to talk about past projects in great detail as if you worked on them yesterday.

If you take more than a few months off interviews become insanely hard.

barefeg · 3 years ago
I followed the inverse path: first academia in non-CS and then tech engineering. And though it hasn’t been that many years after academia, I wouldn’t be able to do it again after my gap. Granted, academics will probably don’t care about my experiences doing something else, but personally I have forgotten so many things that I’d have to start with master-level courses to refresh my memory. And then spend months to catch up with the advancements in the field I was working on.

But then again, I might be comparing oranges to apples here.

quickthrower2 · 3 years ago
Interviewer: we got 3 great candidates to the final stage we need to pick one. This chap is strong but he will need 3 months to get up to speed after the hiatus. Let’s go with the others.

Depends alot on the supply and demand of compiler engineers though.

Could be interviewer: finally a competent compiler engineer! Handcuff him to that gold bar!

hardware2win · 3 years ago
>I'd be out-of-touch with compilers

Why?

Ive always thought that those jobs are like: every company does it a little bit different (tools, processes, architecture) but theory, parsing and LLVM stay the same.

So what changes in e.g year or two? new CPU instructions? Architectures?

How does your job look like? You are doing more frontend or backend work?

artagnon · 3 years ago
It's less a question about what changes, and more a question about how well you can recall your past experience (I had the big picture, but forgot the details of several optimizations I'd written in the past, as well as certain CS fundamentals), and how well you can do online coding interviews (I've only written Coq, at a glacial pace, over the last three years).

I will mainly be working on the middle-end and back-end for RISC-V.

tarsinge · 3 years ago
OT but if your French is decent and in a few years you get tired of city life maybe keep the French countryside in sight, outside of Paris it's a different country.
artagnon · 3 years ago
Hehe, perhaps when I'm older. My collaborator on the LICS paper also tells me that the countryside is very beautiful. It will take time to get used to, as I've lived in big cities for the entirety of my life, and participate in activities like book clubs.
carterschonwald · 3 years ago
I had always thought you were just switching to a focus on formal methods! Otoh we had only interacted a teeny bit / little to none while you were in nyc I think
artagnon · 3 years ago
I initially kept that option open, yes. However, there are surprisingly few available positions in formal methods outside of academia, and Coq is very very hard: my ability to prove things with Coq is quite modest.

Probably worth noting that I did have an PhD offer earlier, to work with Coq. However, since it was in a small village in Germany, I had to turn it down.

On a more general note, I don't know if formal methods is that promising today: proof assistants are very immature, and proving even little things involves a lot of trial-and-error and is very time-consuming.

Yes, I recall interacting with you!

breck · 3 years ago
It's a beautiful paper, even if the significance of sections is lost on me. Very clear and concise and beautiful illustrations. I learned a few things from it (I like how you describe planar trees as trees that can't be reflected about the y-axis).
maCDzP · 3 years ago
Your story brought me joy! I am really happy that you had the opportunity to follow your passion, and did! And that you are happy with the decision you made while still seeing the negative consequences.

To me that is a truly a life well lived.

auselen · 3 years ago
Every manager I worked with gets impressed by origin stories like this. I would guess it is even easier in Europe.
mabbo · 3 years ago
The greatest such story I've ever read is this one from a GitHub issue comment:

https://github.com/docker/cli/issues/267#issuecomment-695149...

> Sorry I missed your comment of many months ago. I no longer build software; I now make furniture out of wood. The hours are long, the pay sucks, and there's always the opportunity to remove my finger with a table saw, but nobody asks me if I can add an RSS feed to a DBMS, so there's that :-)

mauvehaus · 3 years ago
That's me! It also generated a rather large discussion here and if you want to read how things were going up to that point, I posted a lengthy comment there:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=24541964

How am I doing now? Still good, still grateful to be married to somebody who gets good health insurance through their job. Still need to update my website a bit (is that work ever really done?). Still working on the mix of building stuff and rustling up new business. Please feel free to reach out if you have a furniture need or a furniture windmill to tilt at (email in profile). I do sculptural light pieces too.

mabbo · 3 years ago
I need you to understand that I think about this comment all of the time. Every time someone asks for something ridiculous, I think "I could be making furniture out of wood".

I doubt that I am alone in that.

freedomben · 3 years ago
I haven't seen your comment before, but I've literally considered this exact thing a few times over the last several years. I built a few pieces (a table, a bench, a fireplace mantle) and found it was super rewarding in the same ways that building software is, but despite being physically harder was ultimately a stress reducing activity. I've got a handful of young kids and a mortgage so it's stayed in the back of my mind.

If you don't mind, can you share a little about what the pay really is like? And how do you go about finding gigs? What are typical gigs like? i.e. do you build stuff and then try to find buyers, or do you find the buyer first and do heavy customizations? Do you use your own plans/designs or do you use others? How high was your skill level when you went full time? What would you recommend for someone who is largely self-taught and therefore has blind spots with some things?

monroewalker · 3 years ago
Oh I think will reach out about purchasing some furniture actually! I've had an idea in mind I'm hoping you'll be able to help with. It's a combo dresser / RSS client that could hold not only all my clothes but also any recent updates to my subscriptions
OliverGuy · 3 years ago
Do you still have all your fingers?
aarghh · 3 years ago
You are an inspiration - the chandelier on your website is a thing of joy. I may reach out soon, my wife and I have been talking about a side table that she has very definite ideas about.

(I'm working my way through the Anarchist Design book and thinking about getting started on the stick chairs).

Merad · 3 years ago
Out of curiosity did you go into woodworking with the intent of making a living from it? Or were you in the position where you had enough savings/passive income/whatever to keep the lights on if woodworking didn't provide a steady income?
bufordtwain · 3 years ago
My son is taking classes in IT and one of his current lecturers switched from carpentry to IT after cutting off several fingers.
kerryoco · 3 years ago
dang. Do they avoid high typing requirements, or have a workaround of some kind? I often wonder what my backup plan would be to any kind of hand injury, let alone missing fingers. I used to do a lot of carpentry but my fingers are intact.
counttheforks · 3 years ago
And we still can't do concurrent pushes/pulls
User23 · 3 years ago
> the opportunity to remove my finger with a table saw

This is a solved problem. SawStop will reduce the injury from amputation to somewhere between laceration and a pinch.

brookst · 3 years ago
I think they were using it as shorthand for all of the physical risks that physical fabricators have, rather than saying circular saws are the one single risk and there is no mitigation.
falcolas · 3 years ago
Even saw stops have bypasses, for when you need to cut a conductive material. And there are many other woodworking tools with the same amputative qualities.
armagon · 3 years ago
Looks like the price has finally come down a bit, but it did seem to be $2000+ for something with a saw stop, but only $200+ for a regular table saw, making it out of reach of many home handypeople.

Interestingly, as I recall, nearly as many people are injured each year from power tools as are injured in vehicular collisions (in the US) and way more people drive than use power tools.

There is a solution, yes, but the problem is not solved.

fwlr · 3 years ago
Dropped out of tech, arguably more by force than choice. My lifestyle, finances, social life, even country of residence (and by extension my love life) were all balanced on top of that little MacBook Pro. Used it for work, used it to socialize, eventually my brain refused to let me mediate my entire life through a computer any longer and I burned out. Now I work at a hotel! Receptionist, barista, waiter, even some maintenance and housekeeping when there’s a need for an extra pair of hands. It covers my needs financially and I get to interact with dozens of new people on a daily basis, which has proven absurdly healthy for me. Still “do tech” in my spare time, but now there’s no pressure, only desire. It’s better for me, but I would hesitate to generally recommend this model of “become sustainable outside of tech and then dip your toes in as you like” - it probably only works because I have previous tech experience, and I am far less productive now as well. But maybe it is not a bad idea for techies burning out.
detourdog · 3 years ago
I work as a janitor in the building I own and I love it. The problems people bring to me are so realistic and easy to solve. The worse thing that could happen is I have to call a tradesmen. I have about 24 bills to pay a year. The real world happens at such a manageable scale compared to technology. The stress of being a System Administrator was such a low-level hum I didn't know it was there.
bityard · 3 years ago
Wow! I've been dabbling in real estate investment as a potential escape hatch from tech and I'd love to hear more about this!
qazxcvbnmlp · 3 years ago
I have a part time job loading bags on airplanes and doing a bit of gate/ ticket counter customer service.

It's amazing the difference it makes in my daily well being - as you say, interacting with new people and working with your hands is very much more satisfying at the end of the day.

Getting a delayed passenger to their destination is a much more tangible problem, then coding for some ill-defined business need.

Still doing tech, but I have a much better outlook and productivity now.

napoleongl · 3 years ago
I once made the opposite journey and I miss the front desk daily. I have even considered finding a nice hotel where I could do the occasional weekend shift just to do something more mentally rewarding than architecting solutions, detailing user stories and testing implementation all day!
GoToRO · 3 years ago
I would guess the one big difference is respect. For some reason, there is no respect for tech workers.
Version467 · 3 years ago
What do you mean by that? Admittedly, I'm not in the US, but it seems to me that tech work is a very respected profession. Especially compared to service work.

The notion that someone would leave the tech world for a job in the service industry because it comes with more respect is absolutely wild to me. That's so far away from my personal experience I honestly can't fit it into my mental model of the world.

Maybe I'm misunderstanding you, or maybe your experience is actually super different from mine. Either way I'd be very interested in an elaboration.

jjav · 3 years ago
> I would guess the one big difference is respect. For some reason, there is no respect for tech workers.

Perhaps OP meant as a trend over time? That has truth to it if you compare going back to the early 90s (my frame of reference).

In the 90s programming was not that well-paid, but was a very respected role in the companies I and my circle of programmer friends inhabited. A programmer/sysadmin was a wizard and treated as such. It was a vastly more fun industry to be in even if salaries were just regular white-collar professional level.

Slowly in the 00s after the dot com crash that seems to have vanished even as salaries started to climb. An in the 2010s programming became a low-level job where all the decision making power was removed from programmers and handed over to PMs. Now programmers are seens as replaceable worker units to be micromanaged to death via agile and daily status reports. In other words, not respected professionals anymore. The insane salaries kind of make up for the loss of respect, but not fully.

For the first couple decades of my career I always felt this was the best field of work ever, and it was. These days though, as I look at my high school peers who went into medicine, law, accounting I have to wonder. They all get ever more respected in their fields as they gain more experience, very much not the case in software anymore.

tetromino_ · 3 years ago
But tech workers get far more respect than people in OP's current role of a receptionist, barista, waiter, and/or housekeeping.
fwlr · 3 years ago
Obviously I can’t speak to your experiences, but I definitely got more respect working as a developer than I do as a receptionist.
projectazorian · 3 years ago
If you’re in SF, NYC, or another major city, anyone not in tech or an adjacent field sees you as a techbro gentrifier who is ruining their city. That makes it hard to make friends. You’re basically starting out at -20 reputation with 60-70% of people you meet.
weakfish · 3 years ago
How?
walledstance · 3 years ago
Teaching. I moved from a big tech company to teaching. Teaching is the hardest job I’ve ever done, and requires entire new skills. Teacher pay, depending on where you are, can be real low compared to FAANG money, but damn do I sleep well at night knowing that I help people. There is nothing like watching someone struggle and then suddenly understanding the subject.

But seriously, it is a hard job. You learn quickly that just because you understand something doesn’t mean you can explain it to someone.

csmeyer · 3 years ago
Also moved in to teaching high school CS. It's hard but the kids are great. I've found that it's a lot less about doing a great job explaining loops or whatever and more about mentorship and getting kids excited about the topic. If anyone's interested in making the switch my email is in my bio, I'd be happy to chat.
seanw444 · 3 years ago
This is a great take. Having been a kid that was super intrigued by CS, the classes were more a formality, and a place to ask the few questions I couldn't put into words very easily for an internet search. Not to say classes weren't important, but I can definitely speak to it being more about getting kids intrigued than just going through the curriculum.

As a complete side note, I think it would have been easier to learn programming if I had started with some lower-level CS, not high-level programming. Some concepts behind even high-level programming don't make a lot of sense to a newbie unless they understand what the limitations of a machine are, and why they inherently exist.

throwaway665654 · 3 years ago
I did the other way around. Went from teaching (university level) to FAANG. I could discuss for hours about the pros and cons of each job, but the bottom line is that I can't afford not earning that money. I'll save every single dollar I can from my SWE job and think about something else when I'm laid off, but I'm not leaving on my own.
otikik · 3 years ago
You sound like a prisoner. No disrespect intended. It really sounds like you would be happier somewhere else. I wish you that you find that place soon.
halfmatthalfcat · 3 years ago
I really want to move into teaching. I learned to love programming in HS AP CS and am really considering making the move. I would love to hear more about your experience switching.
throwaway6734 · 3 years ago
Take a day off of work and substitute teacher.

Depending on the district you end up in, it's not for the feint of heart.

slumpa · 3 years ago
I spent the last 3 years teaching at a software bootcamp, after being a SWE for 8yrs. It's been super rewarding - you're working with adults who are often in a hard spot financially and personally, and you get to help coach them through a major challenge, and see the positive outcomes for them.

The pay will likely be much higher than teaching elsewhere (though I still took a 30k cut). Some bootcamps are more legit than others, so just do your research first

Princesscaraan · 3 years ago
Me too! How i wish i'm a fast learner when it comes to tech.
martopix · 3 years ago
I really resonate with this. I work in academia and I finally decided that I don't want to do research any more, but I want to teach. The choice now is whether to take a teaching-only position in a university, or do something a little crazy and try to go back to my country and teach in a public school. Either way, I hope to feel the same as you say.
nirse · 3 years ago
Good to hear! I'm just about to start the process of getting my teaching qualification, but it feels really daunting to make the switch and leave my fairly comfortable job behind, where I'm well appreciated (but personally I don't feel like I'm really contributing to the world).

What subject are you teaching? Mine will be physics, if all goes well.

martopix · 3 years ago
I'm in exactly the same situation. Possibly.
davewritescode · 3 years ago
This is always something in the back of my head as something I'd like to do if I aged out of tech. I come from a family of teachers and got to see first hand the satisfaction that comes from the job. A few years ago I looked my mom up on one of those rate my teacher websites and was pretty shocked at how many kids she impacted. I always assumed she was good at her job and saw her go above and beyond but seeing it was eye opening.
ProllyInfamous · 3 years ago
>I always assumed she was good at her job and saw her go above and beyond but seeing it was eye opening.

I was the only of my mother's children to attend her employer's appreciation event after she died [family did not have a funeral]. It meant so much to see how her community appreciated and respected and missed her. My siblings, her fellow children, did not want to witness this for some reason ["a waste of time"] but it's among the most beautiful things I've witnessed.

To those gathered hundred+ friends of my mother, I loudly thanked them for attending and sharing the spirit of her beautiful life; I told them calmly and proudly that "this is a celebration of 'how you should live your life,' to have left such an impact upon so many wonderful people."

Top 5 life moments/memories. RIP.

WHYLEE1991 · 3 years ago
you really nailed it on the head, In way less of a way I made somewhat of a similar switch (not at all similar in the level of helping the world) from working at a huge national health/property insurance company (the literal devil) and now work for a welfare related government agency and I think not working for the devil REALLY helps as you say with sleeping at night, hopefully I can somehow make up karmically lol.
theGnuMe · 3 years ago
That's great. Not sure if you teach programming or CS but there is a huge shortage of high school computer science / programming teachers. If you can teach 30 kids programming every year odds are at least 1 or 2 will go on to start a successful tech company someday.
giantg2 · 3 years ago
One thing to mention here is that it depends on the school.

I know a few teachers who quit or went private (for less money) because of problems in the system. The bureaucracy can be oppressive and conflict with your morals. Safety and mistreatment can also be a real concern in some areas. The good news here is that most of the kids you'd be dealing with would be taking programming as an elective, so they should actually give a damn.

jderiksen · 3 years ago
> There is nothing like watching someone struggle and then suddenly understanding the subject.

This is why I love mentoring new hires and interns.

pungentcomment · 3 years ago
I did this 15-20 years ago. I had a small internet/consulting business that I ran out of my house, with a full T1 mind you lol. Got tired of staring at the walls and tired of the f'king servers that chained me down.

An error message from a server while in the car going on a small vacation triggered the change. I had enough. So on the spot I thought of my options and decided on becoming a trucker.

My first aim was to do long haul but I never went that way. I got hired to do local LTL deliveries/pick ups and I loved it. For me it's hard to beat driving a truck when it's nice outside. Winter can be a bitch but you learn manage.

Constantly going in and out of the truck got me and keeps me in shape. I lost 100lbs and feel much better than the fat slob I used to be, tied to the keyboard. It also help that I bike to work (not in winter though).

Took a real pay cut but I would never go back. I don't think I can anyway. I started programming again a couple of years ago on personal projects and I love it. I realize that my skills are greatly diminished but it's still fun to find solutions to problems, fix the damn bugs lol, and be proud of the final product.

qazxcvbnmlp · 3 years ago
Intersting - I have a CDL, but would never go back to that lifestyle unless absolutely needed.

It is amazing how much of a difference physical movement on a daily basis will do.

sigspec · 3 years ago
This is my dream. Tell me more. Did you take classes? What was the investment. I feel chained to this desk.
pungentcomment · 3 years ago
I took classes, not the fancy 6 months full time course, but a part time 6 or 8 (can't remember) weeks course that showed me the basics. I like to drive so this was not a hardship for me. Did not buy my own rig. I just got out of self employment and did not want to go back to that.

Finding a job as a newbie was not easy at the time (because of the insurance they were saying) so I went the agency route and they found me work right away. Worked there for 2 years then found a job closer to home. Been doing that for about 15 years already.

bombcar · 3 years ago
Check your local community college - they may have a CDL course, probably $5-10k.

That way you can ease into it, the other option is to go for one of those "we pay to train" places, but that involves more upfront commitment.

SamWhited · 3 years ago
Every job I ever had in tech was basically terrible and I was never diagnosed, but I suspect was clinically depressed for the 13 years or so I was in tech.

I did not have the savings to do it, but I eventually quit and became a bicycle mechanic. I actually enjoy what I do now, and the work environment doesn't have me constantly jumping back and forth between panic, undirected rage, and extreme listlessness like tech always did. That being said, I'm now broke and probably going to lose my house, so there is that.

keyle · 3 years ago
Oh I just read your comment and I want to tell you that I read it. I wish you better luck around the corner. I know tech depression, I wish you all the best going forward.
makerofthings · 3 years ago
> constantly jumping back and forth between panic, undirected rage, and extreme listlessness

That a great summary of working in big tech.

MrBuddyCasino · 3 years ago
my brother did something similar - quit tech because he was burned out, went to the next best bicycle shop and asked if they'd like to hire him, now he owns the place and has ~80 employees
OccamsMirror · 3 years ago
That brother's name? Albert Einstein.
gavinray · 3 years ago
Why are you going to lose your house?

You bought it while you had tech money and the bicycle mechanic money can't pay for it now?

Have you considered doing some consulting or something on the side? So sorry to hear this.

SamWhited · 3 years ago
yah, I have the tinniest cheapest house pretty far outside of the city but the mortgage is just too much without roommates (which is how all my coworkers afford apartments), but it's small enough that I really don't want to do that

I've tried to do some consulting work, but never could figure out how to get any clients. Apparently this is a thing people do somehow, but everyone I asked just knew somebody to get their first ones.

shaman1 · 3 years ago
Have you considered cashing out? Meaning selling the house so you get you equity back. Maybe you can use that to move somewhere more affordable and start over.
endymi0n · 3 years ago
If you want a cautionary tale, here it is:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=3134322

The coffeeshop fallacy (2011)

It‘s easy to get blinded by how incredibly privileged the tech bubble is and have had a better experience so far just trying to find a great non-toxic spot in there. YMMV, good luck!

causi · 3 years ago
Especially if you've done it your whole professional life. The type of people who see a major tech company charging for lunches in the company cafeteria and then write articles about them trying to starve their employees would curl up and die the first time a customer screamed at them because their pizza had black olives on 60% of it instead of half.
KyeRussell · 3 years ago
I work in tech, but not for a big tech company or a hip funded startup, and this weird “unionist language bastardised by the developer on $300k/yr not getting his (yes, his) butter chicken paid for” stuff is just endlessly cringey to me.

Whilst I wouldn’t be seen dead working in a place like that, y’all really don’t know how good you’ve got it.

benjaminwootton · 3 years ago
I’m not proud of it but I really hate black olives and really wanted that extra 10% of pizza.
Pigalowda · 3 years ago
You guys don’t have to pay for your lunches? That’s pretty cool
synu · 3 years ago
The original article seems to be down, here's an archived version of it: https://web.archive.org/web/20120529125543/http://thestartup...
globular-toast · 3 years ago
This is why it's so important to mix with people from outside of your bubble. HN has some of the worst examples of people who don't know what they have. The discussions around salary are particularly amusing. I'm lucky because my partner is a nurse so I never forget how easy my job is. I also grew up in a poor family and I haven't forgotten what that was like. Honestly, if people would go and spend a long time in a country like India where people actually have it tough I'm sure they'd be a LOT happier.
synu · 3 years ago
For me it's not that I don't feel lucky or enjoy my job in a general sense I guess. I just don't want to do the same thing over and over again my whole life. I started programming on a Commodore at like 6 or 7 years old and have basically never stopped now that I'm in my 40s.
lotsofpulp · 3 years ago
I feel like just patronizing other businesses and watching others work should provide enough perspective. Not having to deal with the general public is itself an amazing benefit.
seattle_spring · 3 years ago
There's a prolific poster on HN who I've noticed pops into COL discussions to insist that $300k a year is near poverty. Tim something, like clockwork. It's hilarious.
jodrellblank · 3 years ago
See also Venkatesh Rao's blog post on The Locust Economy[1]:

> "To take coffee shops as an example, an unending supply of idealistic wannabe cafe owners enters the sector every year, operates at a loss for a few years, and exits. The result is that even under normal business conditions, without swarming locust consumers, this is a loss-making business with an extinction rate of around 90% at the 5 year point in the US. Starbucks has the scale to be profitable and resilient. Locust coffee drinkers happily drink the excellent, loss-making coffee from small, local Jeffersonian coffee shops and callously retreat to Starbucks or DIY homebrew if the prices go up. Starbucks survives, coffee drinking grasshoppers survive, small coffee shops go in and out of business."

("Locust coffee drinkers" is analogy not insult).

[1] https://www.ribbonfarm.com/2013/04/03/the-locust-economy/

opportune · 3 years ago
Agreed completely. As soul sucking as corporate software can be, we are very fortunate to be able to earn a great living for doing something (often) mentally stimulating and physically easy.

I’m sure many a barista fantasy has been crushed the first time having to deal with an unruly or argumentative customer, clean diarrhea off the bathroom walls, etc. Yeah, you have less to worry about once your shift is over, but your shift might really suck.

In our culture it sounds cringe/like bragging to make these kinds of comparisons punching down (to which I retort that the “back to blue collar” fantasy started it) but at this point in my life I don’t think I’ll ever have to put up with crap like that for money in the future, and I don’t plan to. Why would I do that?? We get paid several multiples just to tell computers to send little packets of data formatted just so from here to there.

All you need to do to be happy is what you’d be doing at your barista job anyway - stop giving a crap about your job after regular working hours, and stop trying to find an existential purpose in repetitive, draining tasks. Once you can do that, you reap all the benefits of higher pay with less bullshit

siva7 · 3 years ago
It is important to understand that everyone has sometimes escape phantasies (teachers, therapists, baristas, founders, medical doctors, professors, developers, etc., they all do) because something is making them truly unhappy in their day-to-day job and they assume other people happier. Finding about the root cause what makes you unhappy will usually lead to more satisfying results than just running after to become a farmer or woodchopper because it has nothing to do with "computers". Sometimes the answer is to switch roles but more often than not you still haven't tackled the underlying issues and the misery starts again.
4gotunameagain · 3 years ago
For some people, sitting on a chair all day staring at a screen can be a true source of misery. When I am closer to nature, doing things with my body, I invariably feel better.
x98asfd · 3 years ago
As someone who have done this for more than 10 years professionally and being doing computer stuff since mid 90's, it was fun at first, but staring the computer screen is not good for one's health. Issues such as carpal tunnel syndrome or eye problems often comes up. Jobs involves staring at screen ought to limited to a few hour max per day.
carlosjobim · 3 years ago
Some jobs are just hell, and the reason people stick in those jobs is that they don't know any better. Nobody has shown them other opportunities, they think getting another job and performing it would be difficult. They think their current salaries are OK because they have nothing better to compare with. For those people, the root cause of their misery is the job and all of them would be better off switching careers.
ProllyInfamous · 3 years ago
Amen. I am exactly here, just before forty...

I went to college and tried a year of grad school, and then ran off to become an electrician. This is a profitable career but is extremely tough on body; any position within the industry, it is still physical labor. Now, after fifteen years of sacrificing myself "for the big bucks," I am left wondering whether I will be able to fit into a work environment that isn't construction [knowing that I must make this transition].

It is paralyzing fear, and removing this debilitation is hard when people are literally throwing bonkers money at anybody even claiming to be a skilled tradesman, right now — my body is done! The money is good! Whatdo?!

I'm currently "taking time off" and re-exploring a childhood love of computers... learning python, bought a new computer for first time in over a decade... trying to love this all!

And now with all the AI coding and copywriting... UGHHHHH. The timeline, it's just brilliant and perhaps I'll just retire and enjoy a new AI existence =P

GoToRO · 3 years ago
My problem is the lack of respect. What can I do about it?
siva7 · 3 years ago
What do you exactly mean with lack of respect? All the professions i've listed above face issues regarding lack of respect all the time (angry shop customers, angry patients, angry board members, etc.). If you feel undervalued in your current team, i would advise to interview with another company/team. If you feel undervalued in your social life, switching roles/jobs usually won't make the problems go away.
theGnuMe · 3 years ago
Work on your sense of self and self esteem.
wwilim · 3 years ago
The computers are the good part of the job. Unless I'm dealing with npm.
gsatic · 3 years ago
The underlying issue is Corporate wonderland is a mindless machine whether you work with computers or not.

No great surprise at all that people checkout and burnout, cause people are not machines.

tayo42 · 3 years ago
so how do you all make tech tolerable? Bonus points if you work in ops like SRE or something
000ooo000 · 3 years ago
I could use this advice too. I love programming; it was a teen hobby prior to making a career out of it. I inherited some elements of my old man's work ethic ("If it's worth doing, it's worth doing right", "Do it right the first time", etc) which I think are, at best, a low priority, and at worst, incompatible with the way software is built in the majority of software gigs. Value first, quality ..maybe.

So I'm attempting to reconcile the reality of modern, corporate software development with the way I derive satisfaction/meaning from my career. Boiled down, my naivete about our relationship with work, which is undoubtedly encouraged and exploited by society, has started to wane, and now I'm trying to uncouple how I get meaning/satisfaction from how I get money.

New years resolutions aren't for me but this year I tried to start loosely viewing things in my life like investments, specifically in terms of ROI. It's more of a reminder of how to think than a spreadsheet. I imagine myself as having an 'energy' budget. Sometimes I spend some energy and I get some back; other times I get nothing in return. As far as my career goes, I need to spend X to get my pay check, which eventually converts to energy. Sometimes I spend X+Y, hoping I get something more, like recognition/education/satisfaction. Sometimes that Y is engaging in a debate in peer review. Sometimes it's trying to anticipate one's manager or "showing initiative". The important thing is to track Y and if there's no return, mark that as a bad investment to be avoided in future. I burned out a couple of years ago because I was spending Y like mad with zero regard for the ROI, or at least with the vague expectation there would be some ROI one day.

Obviously this is not novel, or even a good analogy ("all models wrong; some useful"), but this framing is a (potentially) temporary way to adjust my thinking and behaviour from the brainwashed, single-minded, career-focused, please-notice-me-ceo-daddy track I started out in after school/uni.

danjoredd · 3 years ago
By doing something else in my spare time. Don't get me wrong, I still play with tech sometimes, but staring at a screen all day and then going home to look at more screens makes it MUCH worse. Read a book, take a walk, attend a class somewhere, etc. You are not meant to work all day every day...enjoy the fruits of your labor.