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mcluck commented on How to talk to anyone and why you should   theguardian.com/lifeandst... · Posted by u/Looky1173
weatherlite · 11 days ago
I don't know. The idea is old and looks solid but the more I think about it the more I don't buy it; people have less good friends. Many people are estranged from family. Many people barely say hello to their neighbors. Maybe we should expend our limited energy on the people we do know instead of strangers waiting for the bus. For me starting something with a complete stranger is draining; I need to overcome a psychological barrier (that's probably there for a good reason); so the risk is there. The reward ? I'm not sure. Some interactions could be fun, many could be boring and draining. Sure I could get better at this skill of talking to strangers with lots of struggle but the end game isn't really clear, it's not gonna flip my personality into a charismatic stranger lover. I could use the time to quietly stare at space or call my mom instead.
mcluck · 11 days ago
I think you're missing the part where interacting with strangers is also working the general socialization muscle. If you find yourself being more social in general, and give yourself the time to recharge, then you'll be better equipped to engage with those closest to you. You may even get lucky and add someone else to that circle

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mcluck commented on SQLite JSON at full index speed using generated columns   dbpro.app/blog/sqlite-jso... · Posted by u/upmostly
mcluck · 3 months ago
Very cool article. To really drill it home, I would have loved to see how the query plan changes. It _looks_ like it should Just Work(tm) but my brain refuses to believe that it's able to use those new indexes so flawlessly
mcluck commented on Self-hosting a Matrix server for 5 years   yaky.dev/2025-11-30-self-... · Posted by u/the-anarchist
mcluck · 3 months ago
I've tried off and on to actually use Matrix. I was a bit of a loud supporter in the early days. Unfortunately, it looks like it still hasn't grown past the fundamental issues I was having then. It might be time to try something else

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KarmaCake day1155July 18, 2016View Original