Pretty sad that you feel the need to rub salt into a wound.
Nah I don't think that's what I did. As another commenter said maybe that's how it came out (sorry), but not the intention.
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whatwherewhy commented on Ask HN: What is the thing you've built that you regret the most? · Posted by u/Octabrain
>I don't see anything patronizing or showing superiority in what I wrote. I am saying this as a peer, not as a superior.
And you have four different peers who have responded to you suggesting that you are being condescending. Take a step back and ask why - intention and tone are two different things, and if you get the latter wrong then we will misunderstand the former.
>It's kinda weird to expect people not to make mistakes such as this if nobody tells them it's wrong. And it's normal for people to tell other people they do bad stuff if they do.
Just let 'em be. You're not a hero. They admitted what they did, and why they know it's wrong. You're not doing anything other than going, "Yep, you sure did fuck up."
> Take a step back and ask why - intention and tone are two different things, and if you get the latter wrong then we will misunderstand the former.
Good point, OK.
whatwherewhy commented on Ask HN: What is the thing you've built that you regret the most? · Posted by u/Octabrain
So you’re assuming that you know better than them what they’ve done wrong, that you have to tell them, and how they should make up for it. That’s how your tone is coming across.
> you know better than them what they’ve done wrong
Hardly, since I just agreed with what they said. I suggested what IMHO is a good way to make up for it. Nothing else.
> that you have to tell them
Sure, I have to. I think everyone should say something in cases like this.
whatwherewhy commented on Ask HN: What is the thing you've built that you regret the most? · Posted by u/Octabrain
>Now they should try to make it right - donating money to people trying to fix the situation is a good way to do that.
You're assuming that this individual hasn't already done something to atone (which goes against HN's rule to assume best intentions). That, coupled with a tone that comes off as though you know better than this person, basically round out the definition of "condescending".
I am not assuming anything. I made a suggestion, nothing else. They're free to do nothing if they feel like they already did enough. You're assuming I'm assuming <...>, which goes against the HN rule to assume best intentions.
whatwherewhy commented on Ask HN: What is the thing you've built that you regret the most? · Posted by u/Octabrain
condescending: having or showing an attitude of patronizing superiority.
I don't see anything patronizing or showing superiority in what I wrote. I am saying this as a peer, not as a superior.
It's kinda weird to expect people not to make mistakes such as this if nobody tells them it's wrong. And it's normal for people to tell other people they do bad stuff if they do.
whatwherewhy commented on Ask HN: What is the thing you've built that you regret the most? · Posted by u/Octabrain
> IMHO it'd be nice if you donated some of your earnings to a human rights focused NGO operating in the area.
Is there somehow a difference in impact depending on who does this? Maybe if you chipped in, the Qatar slave workers would be even better off. Or is this just about guilt-tripping strangers for their past? :-)
My free funds are currently 100% dedicated to helping Ukraine and will be until Russia falls back to 1991 borders.
whatwherewhy commented on Ask HN: What is the thing you've built that you regret the most? · Posted by u/Octabrain
'not saying anything at all' wasn't a rhetorical suggestion
Nah, I'm really not the kind of person that says nothing to this.
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whatwherewhy commented on Ask HN: What is the thing you've built that you regret the most? · Posted by u/Octabrain
If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
Was I supposed to say "great job" to this? Lol.
whatwherewhy commented on Wickr Me is shutting down December 31, 2023 wickr.com/our-focus-on-en... · Posted by u/vorpalhex
If your app is not popular with terrorists and child rapists, it is not secure.
If an app is popular only with terrorists and child rapists, it's a weird choice for a business.