1/100 of that is life changing money for most people here in my country. I can't imagine...
15k? Where?
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> That stuff can't be faked, even with a high salary. Before you say, "it's easy to say when you're getting paid $240K a year." Nah. A person needs challenge; a purpose. Lots of FANG ICs making $500K+ who hate their job. Why? No challenge or palpable purpose.
Something only someone with a high income would say. Contrary to all data and research and evidence.
Making 500-700k at a FAANG right now.
Money certainly makes me worry less, not complaining.
I still feel like a cog in a machine.
If anything, it further isolated all the problems in my life that money could never really solve.
Meaningful friendships, dating, self-control and discipline, self-esteem.
Before, I could go by telling myself the story that "if only I had X amount of income, I'd be happy".
Now, I don't have that excuse any more.
I stare at the mirror, still see the same person, and realize that no amount of money will help.
A nice problem to have I guess, but problems that have plagued me my entire life.
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I read this here and there and don't doubt it, but then again I've never seen/met anyone IRL (outside of C-level) making this much money as an employee.
Are they just extremely rare cases or am I just not aware of the valley and their customs?
No this is not rare at all. Meta offers E5 ("senior" level) new hires a 400-500k total package in the US (given that you negotiate, I know the levels.fyi numbers are a bit lower), and this isn't some exception. If your performance is good and/or stock appreciation happens, then that number goes even higher.
I'm a very average engineer (probably way below average amongst the HN crowd) and I'm in that range.
nexus2045 commented on Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong? · Posted by u/coreyhn
This completely fails for me. I will end up with freezing cold hands and a warm body. Put me in a 65f room and after an hour of being idle my hands will start to go numb from the cold.
Got a small heater (size of a small PC speaker) for 20 bucks on Amazon, most effective purchase I’ve made in recent memory, super effective for cold fingers and doesn’t even need to be on all the time
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Reminds me of the “first time?” meme
nexus2045 commented on Ask HN: Experienced software engineer – but unable to consistently work · Posted by u/Throwaway49202
My suggestions will be unpopular and controversial, but I have been in your shoes, and medication has saved my life. Make it your goal.
If you can't get medicated, I would suggest copious amount of caffeine and nicotine, especially the latter. Perhaps don't get into cigarettes, patches are great if you understand that they take hours to reach peak nicotine concentration. Vaping is still 10x better than an unmedicated, unassisted life. Get some exercise in for that 15% boost in executive function, and it's great for your health anyway. Good luck starting an exercise routine unmedicated though.
If one day society decides I cannot take the meds that keep me ticking along, that is my plan. I'd rather die 10 years earlier because of nicotine side-effects than go back into the hole of self loathing and mental impotence I just managed to crawl out of.
Stay away from any dopamine binge. You are probably already binging on something. Drugs, porn, mindless YouTubing, food, sugar, sex, the Internet, video games are your best pleasure and your worst enemy. You crave that rush, you will seek it anywhere, it will make your ADHD worse and worse.
It's not going to be easy, but don't give much weight to "normal" people trying to convince you you're just one small trick away from a happy life. They don't know what the hell they're talking about. You have a mental imbalance, and unless you can afford not to work like a hamster 40h a week to get a salary, you need help to fix the imbalance.
And in any case if you are like me you will never be a cubicle monkey. Freelance. Work you own hours. Work for yourself if you can. It is possible to get to a point that your 0.2x productivity, if you're good, still keeps a roof over your head.
Hit me up, email in my profile, if you wanna vent. I have lived in your shoes for a very long time.
Why does nicotine work? Asking this as someone who has similar problems to OP (but an average programmer) and have been vaping every day, all day long, for the last few years, and don’t mind a shorter lifespan.
Hell of a lot of "ifs" and assertions here. IF you can get a 100k job at age 21 and IF you can save 30% per year (which us a lot) and IF nothing goes wrong with your health, company failing, being laid off, etc etc.
It's highly, highly unrealistic to assume 21 year olds earning 100K AND saving 30% of it, have you met many 21 year olds?
No it’s not unrealistic. Any decently bright and hard working college student studying computer science can get that 100k+ even as an intern. So technically this saving can start before age of 21. By age 25 they can already make 300k+. But yes, this is assuming you are in North America.
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Exactly. Someone senior with 6+yrs of exp can easily make $400-600k. So unless you're already making $300k+, it's far more than 10-20%.
Recently went through the leetcode circus myself and ended up with an offer in this range, thus 4-5x my previous salary, and I have 7 years of experience. The interview had almost nothing to do with my work experience (which isn't that great btw) except for the behavioral portion. I am not exceptional either - most HN comments go over my head really quickly. Now I can actually think about affording real estate and starting a family.
Companies that can pay this much aren't rare. They're all in plain sight. FAANG, Coinbase, Stripe, Brex, to name a few.
Weigh the ROI of changing your environment vs changing yourself
A lot of people on HN are do-it-yourself, bootstrap types. So you'll naturally get "why don't you just do XYZ."
There's merit in that, but sometimes changing the environment is more effective. That environment may be literal physical location (closer to friends or activities you're interested in), a job environment (different industry) or, at a smaller scale, your home environment. I finally started updating my place and having friends over and it's made a huge difference.
On a personal note: a hard lesson I had to learn for myself is that having fun (as weird as it sounds) is my responsibility. I found that I tended to look "outwards" for stimulation, fun, validation...waiting for the world to give me things.
Hanging out with people who were great at cultivating their own fun & energy helped me realize 1) this is something I could cultivate and 2) I was shirking responsibility.
IMO this cultivation of one's own energy is a long, internal journey. But worth it.
Good luck mate.
I am having a similar problem as OP (in my 30s now but yearn for the social environment of 20 somethings) and am debating digital nomading a bit to change my environment, as where I live seems to pose a lot of psychological inertia since I spent most of my life here and fall into the same patterns - everything seems like I've "been there and done that". The idea of weighing the ROI and being responsible for my own fun is a much needed reminder so thank you for this comment, I really needed it.