It is probably more complicated than that.

Like if you know for sure that a friend of yours did something completely incompatible with your norms (for me that would be for example stealing money from poor old people), perhaps you don't want to have them as your friend anymore.

But if there's doubt and uncertainty and pressure from the community, it's better to support your friends.

The term misconduct is used usually in the work environment when one party is in a position of power, like a boss of another. This is not the case here.

> This behavior may imply life long psychological consequence for them.

Or may not. Or maybe refusal to engage with women could imply life long psychological consequence for them: women as well as men feel bad when they are rejected.

Don't decide for women what's best for them. They are grown up adults and engage in these relationships voluntarily.

> Yes they are the victims

Victims are those who were assaulted against their will. My understanding that there was no violations like that in this story.

You may have your best intentions about women and still slip. Like accidentally calling people "guys" which is considered offensive now.

Everyone does tons of "mistakes" like that. Sometimes it is forgiven, sometimes it is now.

Whether it is forgiven or not often depends not on the exact words or tone of your voice, but on the perception of you. If you are handsome, the reaction will be a giggle. If you not so good, exactly the same words can be considered offensive. https://knowyourmeme.com/photos/1663485-hello-human-resource...

The problem is that people gets offended too easily nowadays.

And you advice can be translated as "just be successful young and handsome".

Don't blame knives for killing people, blame people who kill people.

I think the issue here is that Twitter came too quickly into our lives, and people did not have time adapt to the new reality.

Three hundreds years ago people would happily join a mob on a square trying to burn a woman because she is a witch or a traitor or unfaithful. Today people would just tell them they are coo coo and continue with their business.

After a couple of years people will learn to react to Twitter cancelling mob the same.

Because nowadays there are too many fake accounts, even paid trolls, and talking to them (or even listening to them) is just waste of time, not a meaningful conversation.

My twitter account is anonymous and I sometimes get replies like why would I want to talk to nobody. And they are right, they probably shouldn't.

But realistically it's much easier to save money when your income is $10K per months vs when your income is $1K per month.

The UK did a great thing recently: there's semi-mandatory private pension contributions: it is 8% total (you can opt-out, but you need to explicitly do that). So even folks making poor financial discussion will own some wealth.

AFAIK in the US there's no minimum contribution to 401k.