I have 2 kids under 6 and I feel like I just don't have any time for any of my hobbies any more. I leave for work first thing, come home in the afternoon, and haven't had any time for myself until the kids are down at 7.30, and I'm utterly wasted. Weekends are just chaos, yeah we can divide and conquer but that only goes so far.
As for enjoying hanging around with kids.... I don't know what age that starts, but I'm 5 years and counting.
Honestly I'm exhausted, and I'm not gonna lie, I have some regret about having kids when I see the child free people around me, and how they're spending their 30s.
Exactly this. I have 2 under six, and outside the odd night were my wife bathes both kids, from 6am to 9pm I’m either working or hanging out with my kids. Maybe 2-3 times a month I’ll get 4 hours to myself to go watch a baseball/hockey game.
At the end of the day though, I look back and I’m grateful. I tell myself “where did my hobbies go” but deep down I know I probably would have spent that time watching a 3 hour super smash brothers documentary or re-reading LOTR or something stupid like that.
Kids have made me more focused. Their unconditional needs force me to weed out the time wasting, unimportant things in my life. I honestly sometimes wonder how it ever felt like I was busy before.
If they can get that working I’d be ecstatic!