Your story hits close to me. I have never been homeless but I have been through excessive dry spells of no work (I think taking a remote job 5 years ago was a mistake in some ways because it killed my interviewing skills) and had to move back to living with one of my parents. At my mid-30s it feels like your life is a shit show. The jobs I get now have been via "non traditional" means, that is very informal chats instead of lengthy interview processes, and only for short gigs and not long term arrangements.
When I have been out of work for over a year, I too just stopped everything, shut myself in more, thinking that going into "silent mode" and avoiding most contact with friends was gonna help me concentrate more on the job hunt. But it doesn't.
I can tell you to continue what you're doing, building a network and finding ways that people can refer you.
You might think that referrals are a cheese way to short-list your way into an interview, but think of referrals as a trust metric- a quantity that convinces people that you're worth the words you speak.
Can you show us your portfolio site? Honestly I got some of my interviews just from things I had on Github that caught soemone's interest. But I believe they need some kind of novel quality to them- a rehashed tutorial app won't cut it.
1. quit job for ethical reasons
2. run out of savings very quickly
3. run out of unemployment after that, can't afford rent
4. After being 3 days late on rent a notice was posted on my door saying that I had 5 days to pay in full or face eviction
5. After those 5 days were up, another notice was posted on my door that I had to appear in court the following week
6. Show up to court, make my way to the assigned room, multiple other people going through the same thing show up
7. Judge explains what is happening: you can speak to the plantif's lawyer to settle, and you can speak to some free lawyers who will help you sort your rights, and you can choose to settle that day or file a response.
a) settling with the landlord would have meant that I had to pay in full and then move out 1 week later but would not be evicted (basically self eviction)
b) file a response and take it to court a week later and then get evicted a week after that by a sheriff
8. I chose option B
9. In the meantime I signed up for a service (and ended up being approved) which helps with situations such as these by paying 80% of your rent (one-time service)
10. A few days before court I was able to pay rent and they dropped the case
11. sold some things to keep paying for rent and borrowed some money
12. finally got a fucking job
I was also slapped with:
1. $250~ in legal fees
2. $300~ in late fees
3. $100~ prematurely canceled rental insurance fee (rental insurance, utilities etc. are all in the same rent payment)