I commute to work by train and even though I have great headphones and listen to music on Spotify some mornings it just crackles in my ears. The audio is fine, but I'm extra sensitive sometimes.
At the office people are sometimes very loud. They are excited and having fun but when it goes over my sensory limit (which varies a lot) I become unable to do anything. Ears crackling with headphones means I can't shut their noise out either. And we're supposed to be social at the office but they talk about stuff I don't know what to say about.
When I get home I am beyond exhausted. Can't sleep because of anxiety or adrenaline or something. I just zombie out streaming series or movies while reading Hacker News, Reddit or Bluesky. I promise myself I'll go to sleep early but if I do I can't fall asleep until 2-4am. If I stay up until 1am I have better chance of falling asleep faster.
Weekends are spent catching up with sleep, wanting to tidy up and do side projects as well as gaming but most times I spend half the day in bed and then stay up gaming or something because it is my time and I want to do the fun stuff. Rince and repeat unless I get lucky and catch 10 to 12 hours of sleep.
I'm a 47 year old female principal engineer. I feel like I'm just drifting through the days and months. But I do live my work, the people and challenges. I just wish I could deal with everything better.
Thanks for making this game.
The worst aspect is that I seem to procrastinate fun things now - like gaming, or making music.
Hope you can find something to help you recharge :)
If you put me in a village in Europe 5000 years ago, I’d be fine. I’d be better than fine. I’d be the guy in the hunting part who could smell the fresh scat from 50 yards away. I’d be the guy who could remember all the fucking barks and plants and mushrooms that are good for what ails ya. I’d be the guy who knew the story of every god and goddess and why they’re important. Most social situations would involve people I knew very well or people in the same culture, where I could depend on knowing the rules of the culture.
The modern world is full of random noise and stifling bureaucracy. I love being autistic. But it’s awful, truly awful to have this nervous system in this society. The endless stress breaks you down day after day, year after year, and system teaches you to see yourself as inherently broken, when it’s the system that has broken you.
Maybe you’re disabled, but maybe it’s the system that did it to you.
A lot of my autistic issues are caused by society because they are mostly sensory - bright lights, random noise, synthetic smells.
The social model of disability doesn't cover all my symptoms and issues though, I am very much disabled. Pre diagnosis and medication my rejection sensitive dysphoria would cause me to perceive sleights and fly off the handle very easily.
5000 years ago I would have had a rock to the head.
I’m being completely serious here and so is he. I can barely use the web without ad blockers. They make it possible for me to participate in online life. Remove them and you largely remove me. An attack on ad blockers is a direct attack on even the slightly neurodivergent, and should be treated as such.
Man, that "probably" is doing a ton of heavy lifting.
That's exactly it, and why I prefer it be called an executive function disorder rather than any kind of focus disorder.
I can focus just fine. Too well, actually, to the detriment of all else, including physical needs like eating and sleeping. But I can't control it. I don't get to choose when I'm productive or when I'm not, let alone what I actually focus or work on. I could go weeks at a time where absolutely nothing is interesting enough, everything is painfully boring, and I'm so task paralyzed I just can't do anything. Likewise, I might give into a project for 48 hours straight non stop.
It's amazing I have a job at all, to be honest. I am also autistic, and it is a special kind of hell at times.