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bgilroy26 commented on The Monks in the Casino   derekthompson.org/p/the-m... · Posted by u/pavel_lishin
btilly · a month ago
The experience of young men is that they have grown up in a world where they've consistently been told that everything is their fault because they have male privilege. Doubly so if the men have white or Asian ancestry.

Reactions to this vary. The ones described in the article have sought out addictions to escape this reality. Many others, including my son, have essentially said, "Well if this side rejects me, I'll go to the other side." The result is a rapid rise in conservatism, as documented in polls. See https://www.realclearpolling.com/stories/analysis/young-amer... for an example.

It is very easy, particularly for those who are very progressive, to blame the men themselves for these reactions. But it is a natural overreaction to the systematic rejection to a lifetime of being told that they are the problem. "You think I'm the problem? I'll show YOU what it looks like if I BECOME the problem!"

I firmly believe that these problematic behaviors and politics would be greatly softened if our society showed more empathy to these struggling men. But in our polarized society, their choices and beliefs label them as the enemy. Which causes some to double down into toxic extremism like siding with incels, or MGTOW.

Historically when a pendulum swings one way, eventually it swings back. But I'm having trouble how we're going to swing back, when both sides have swung to and then doubled down on polarization.

bgilroy26 · a month ago
Society is kinetic and disparate because of social media

We're all on top of one another, and different cross tabs feel different ways about the same thing. So there is room for empathy and antipathy to coexist

If you read the New York Times and The Atlantic there is lots of empathy for the male loneliness crisis

I am in between the age of you and your son it seems. As a man who has not missed any of the "misandry", I think the overly online conservative young men are an embarrassment and I hope they grow out of it

bgilroy26 commented on GPT-5.1: A smarter, more conversational ChatGPT   openai.com/index/gpt-5-1/... · Posted by u/tedsanders
4b11b4 · a month ago
I'll respond to this bait in the hopes that it clicks for someone how to _not_ use an LLM..

Asking "them"... your perspective is already warped. It's not your fault, all the text we've previously ever seen is associated with a human being.

Language models are mathematical, statistical beasts. The beast generally doesn't do well with open ended questions (known as "zero-shot"). It shines when you give it something to work off of ("one-shot").

Some may complain of the preciseness of my use of zero and one shot here, but I use it merely to contrast between open ended questions versus providing some context and work to be done.

Some examples...

- summarize the following

- given this code, break down each part

- give alternatives of this code and trade-offs

- given this error, how to fix or begin troubleshooting

I mainly use them for technical things I can then verify myself.

While extremely useful, I consider them extremely dangerous. They provide a false sense of "knowing things"/"learning"/"productivity". It's too easy to begin to rely on them as a crutch.

When learning new programming languages, I go back to writing by hand and compiling in my head. I need that mechanical muscle memory, same as trying to learn calculus or physics, chemistry, etc.

bgilroy26 · a month ago
I have a lot of fun creating stories with Gemini and Claude. It feels like what Tom Hanks character imagined comic books could be in Big (1988)

I play once or twice a week and it's definitely worth $20/mo to me

bgilroy26 commented on URLs are state containers   alfy.blog/2025/10/31/your... · Posted by u/thm
jorl17 · a month ago
When I get my way reviewing a codebase, I make sure that as much state as possible is saved in a URL, sometimes (though rarely) down to the scroll position.

I genuinely don't understand why people don't get more upset over hitting refresh on a webpage and ending up in a significantly different place. It's mind-boggling and actually insulting as a user. Or grabbing a URL and sending to another person, only to find out it doesn't make sense.

Developing like this on small teams also tends, in my experience, to lead to better UX, because it makes you much more aware of how much state you're cramming into a view. I'll admit it makes development slower, but I'll take the hit most days.

I've seen some people in this thread comment on how having state in a URL is risky because it then becomes a sort of public API that limits you. While I agree this might be a problem in some scenarios, I think there are many others where that is not the case, as copied URLs tend to be short-lived (bookmarks and "browser history" are an exception), mostly used for refreshing a page (which will later be closed) or for sharing . In the remaining cases, you can always plug in some code to migrate from the old URL to the new URL when loading, which will actually solve the issue if you got there via browser history (won't fix for bookmarks though).

bgilroy26 · a month ago
To save the url length, why not hash all possible states and have the value of the variable in the query string refer to that?
bgilroy26 commented on Becoming the person who does the thing   fredrivett.com/2025/09/10... · Posted by u/fredrivett
flippyhead · 3 months ago
The trick to getting results in the gym, and establishing a sustainable practice (which is key in both exercise and diet), is to just go regularly but allow yourself to leave at any point. Say you decide four days a week is your long-term goal. On that first day, if you want, leave after 5m. But return the next day. Keep doing this and eventually, I promise, you'll average the 45m you need four days a week forever.

I do the same thing with books. I have tons I have only partially read. But I also have tons that I pick back up later and absolutely LOVE. I don't know exactly why this happens, but I never feel any dread about reading and so read a lot more than I did when I did not think this way.

bgilroy26 · 3 months ago
I keep the principles of days at the gym rather than time at the gym close to time in the market vs timing the market in my mind
bgilroy26 commented on Undisclosed financial conflicts of interest in DSM-5 (2024)   bmj.com/content/384/bmj-2... · Posted by u/renameme
suggestion · 4 months ago
The point is it's obviously a problem of perspective. Things are not important because they aren't considered important. If the stakes are higher they are elevated in importance and more demanding of attention.

To pretend that humans are hedonic beasts incapable of cognitive adaption is ridiculous. We do not operate purely on impulse save for pharmaceutical intervention. We can force ourselves to give things more or less importance regardless of the actual stakes.

bgilroy26 · 4 months ago
The situation you're describing is circular. Perspective taking and prioritization are executive functioning skills and executive functioning skills are precisely what are lacking in a person who has ADHD
bgilroy26 commented on Undisclosed financial conflicts of interest in DSM-5 (2024)   bmj.com/content/384/bmj-2... · Posted by u/renameme
suggestion · 4 months ago
Why do you presume I'm neurotypical and undiagnosed with any psychiatric disorder? I'm formally diagnosed with severe OCD, depression, and ADHD. I was on SSRI, then SNRI and additionally methylphenidate for years. Eventually I got tired for feeling like a shell of a human being, and weaned off of the SNRI. It took a lot of effort to induce neuroplasticity and ease my OCD and depression, but I did it. Eventually, I weaned off the methylphenidate because I believed I could do it if I tried. Later in life, I also gained and eventually lost weight, which was a similar acceptance that "bad" things, like hunger, are ok and a symptom of something good, my body consuming fat. Then the same for sore muscles at the gym. Over time, I accepted discomfort and the fight or flight my brain was constantly trying to force onto me was a lie, and eventually my brain and nervous system caught up. My physical and mental health improved, my social life, my professional life, etc.

I bet if you knew your house would burn down if you didn't do "normal" things you would have done them no problem.

Stimulants make otherwise unenjoyable things enjoyable? Who would have thought? Do you think people that do "normal" things enjoy them? Is it necessary to enjoy everything all the time?

bgilroy26 · 4 months ago
>I bet if you knew your house would burn down if you didn't do "normal" things you would have done them no problem

Getting yourself to do things in a boring situation that you might only do in an exciting situation is a big challenge in ADHD management

If everything was a "house on fire" level emergency, many ADHDers would get more done but would eventually collapse from running around on adrenaline for days

These problems are not easily solved

bgilroy26 commented on DeepSeek-v3.1   api-docs.deepseek.com/new... · Posted by u/wertyk
Leynos · 4 months ago
Look at NovelCrafter.

They have a great Discord community where people share their prompts and workflows.

There is also the WritingWithAI subreddit.

bgilroy26 · 4 months ago
Thank you!
bgilroy26 commented on DeepSeek-v3.1   api-docs.deepseek.com/new... · Posted by u/wertyk
1gn15 · 4 months ago
AO3 has several tags for it.
bgilroy26 · 4 months ago
I should have said, I am looking for posted chat logs where the prompts are shared as well. I really enjoy the process of making stories with AI and I am curious to see how others do the same thing.
bgilroy26 commented on DeepSeek-v3.1   api-docs.deepseek.com/new... · Posted by u/wertyk
Leynos · 4 months ago
DeepSeek is bad for hallucinations in my experience. I wouldn't trust its output for anything serious without heavy grounding. It's great for fantastical fiction though. It also excels at giving characters "agency".
bgilroy26 · 4 months ago
Where would you go to find people posting their AI generated fiction? I haven't been able to find it on Reddit

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