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helpfulmandrill · 2 years ago
Just because you have imposter syndrome doesn't mean you#re competent ;)
ben_w · 2 years ago
Sometimes I worry I'm doing imposter syndrome wrong.
duxup · 2 years ago
It's so hard to really know.

When I did a coding bootcamp long ago in a career switch I couldn't help but look around the room and think "Hey ... some of these people really shouldn't be arbitrarily encouraged anymore."

It's a rough thing to think / do, but also maybe would have been for the best for many of them.

To their credit I talked to some folks who were in the camp a few years after me and they reported that the class sizes naturally shrank as the classes went on. Apparently students were being better evaluated and had ways "out" that encouraged a little more "yeah maybe this isn't for you" type of evaluation.

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hirvi74 · 2 years ago
That's me to a tee.

I have been told I have imposter syndrome by many people. I get all the "You are better than you think you are" and "Trust me, I've seen worse than you."

Regardless, I think I have a pretty accurate assessment of my abilities. I have been professionally programming for 7 years (10 years total) and have a degree in CS.

That being said, I have no fucking idea what I am doing 99% of the time. I just follow guides and documents, and just glue libraries together like a cyber plumber. I probably couldn't even reverse a string by hand if my life depended on it. My job has a pretty low bar for what is considered acceptable, so I have been able to fly under the radar with ease all these years. I'm not being modest, I am being serious. The jaws of many users here would hit the floor if they saw some of our practices.

However, the good news for me is that I do not have to remain like this. Over the past few months or so, I have really tried to increase my knowledge by diving face first in books, lectures, and other resources. I feel like I have improved significantly in this short amount of time. I mean, I am basically starting all over again, but hey, I can maintain the status quo or I can do something about it.

I guess my whole point is that, one may be an "imposter" and/or incompetent, but it's also one's choice to remain as one.

dredmorbius · 2 years ago
Imposter syndrome imposter syndrome, a/k/a IS².
Aurornis · 2 years ago
> To find the sweet spot between impostor syndrome and overconfidence, you first need to understand that you can make mistakes without it reflecting on your competence.

> Failure is not something to be feared—it’s an opportunity to learn and improve.

These pithy quotes can be good for shaking someone out of a perfectionism-induced freeze, but they take the concept too far.

Failure is not a good outcome and should be reasonably avoided to the best of your abilities. You can and should learn from it, but removing all fear of failure isn't realistic.

This doesn't mean you should never start anything that might fail. I think that's what these quotes are trying to get people to avoid. Instead, they set unrealistic expectations about how failure can't/shouldn't/won't have any consequences when, in fact, it often does.

Likewise, making some mistakes is normal. Nobody is perfect. However, mistakes have consequences. It's how you handle and even prepare for those consequences that makes the difference. It's true that you shouldn't be so afraid of mistakes that you can't get yourself to take any risks or do anything, but you shouldn't go so far as to imagine mistakes as having no consequences. If someone is making mistakes at an unreasonably high rate, something needs to change: More training, more supervision, more education, or if all those fail, try a different role.

These little feel-good quotes might shake some people out of being too afraid to try anything, but they also mislead a lot of people into unrealistic ideas about how failure and mistakes shouldn't have any consequences.

LegibleCrimson · 2 years ago
90% of my projects are failures, and the 10% which are successes would have never happened if I was too afraid to start them. The successes looked just as likely to be failures as the actual failures from the outset.

I disagree that "failure is bad and should be avoided". The degree to which failure is bad and should be avoided depends entirely on the gravity of the consequences. When taking on an ambitious programming project, "failure" is just an unfinished project and a loss of time. It's clearly a different world than something like quitting your job to try to become a professional actor.

Judgement shouldn't be based on whether somebody is failing at something or how many mistakes they are making, but the comparison of the positive vs the negative consequences. When learning something new, you will always make many more mistakes.

The problem with both the pithy quotes and your response (which is, I think, largely reasonable) is that neither one actually defines any criteria for success or failure, or what is an "unreasonable" number of mistakes. It just ends up being a semantic disagreement over what they meant by "failure" and what you understand by "failure", and I think you'd probably end up largely agreeing in the end if you broke down and actually explicitly defined the meanings of the words used.

Aurornis · 2 years ago
> 90% of my projects are failures, and the 10% which are successes would have never happened if I was too afraid to start them.

You should definitely try things that might fail.

However, failure within those projects should be actively avoided.

These pithy quotes that try to remove any downside from failure are misleading. In business, failure has consequences. You need to understand what's at risk and make a best effort to steer the project toward success.

These over simplified quotes that try to strip all of the downsides away from failure are a cheap trick. Yeah, they convince some people to get past their fears, but they also mislead other people into thinking that there are no consequences.

You need to understand the risks and consequences, not just wave them away with pithy quotes from someone's blog.

throwaway4233 · 2 years ago
I agree with your comment, and feel that in a software engineering context, the quote

> To find the sweet spot between impostor syndrome and overconfidence, you first need to understand that you can make mistakes without it reflecting on your competence.

is incomplete without describing the environment and people you are around when you make these mistakes. The teams I have worked with until now have all been extremely kind in dealing with other engineers making mistakes and focused on how we could reduce such mistakes as part of a team. It helped me build a mental checklist on dealing with such a situation and when/how to take the risk and when to bring in additional help. I never really noticed the impact of this until I worked with a colleague who seemed to have trouble releasing their work to production and always kept delaying things out.

StefanBatory · 2 years ago
I wish I could upvote it many times.

Failure is not normal and it is speaks badly of you no matter what's the reason. Most people including me are not perfect and it will happen but that doesn't mean failure is alright, that means that we're an problem.

The only thing one has any right in their life to ever blame are themselves.

LegibleCrimson · 2 years ago
A musician fails to perform a piece hundreds or thousands of times while learning it. A programmer fails to apply a concept many times until they fully understand it. To imply that failure is not normal and not alright is to imply that everybody should be able to perfectly do anything in their life without any prior practice.

Clearly, the word "failure" in this context is insufficient, because we all would agree that some failures are unreasonable and some are an absolutely normal and necessary part of personal growth.

PH95VuimJjqBqy · 2 years ago
importantly, not all risk is equal and part of the evaluation shouldn't be feel good quotes but rather an examination of the level of risk involved. To give a crude example.

- Your partner says they're ok with trying a threesome.

- Your partner says they're ok with trying that new restaurant.

to bring it more inline with tech.

software developers need to be able to safely break things, that's why they don't work directly in production. a hotfix bypasses the normal processes and goes straight to production. It's not that you don't do it, you don't do it without an acknowledgement that the reward outweighs the risk and because you respect the risk you take care to minimize mistakes.

dclowd9901 · 2 years ago
> For me, the first step towards that mindset was understanding that you can make mistakes without it reflecting on your competence

Works well for impostor syndrome folks. But I think what the people in the back (the DK folks), need to consider is that you can also do well without it reflecting on your overall competence.

It's more about putting ego aside altogether. You're a mushy piece of meat that thinks. Feel good about your accomplishments, feel bad when you fuck up, learn and move on.

fsckboy · 2 years ago
I feel like some perspective needs to be applied to these popular terms. Imposter syndrome: there's a "sadness is not depression" thing going on here.

There is an actual Imposter Syndrome that afflicts people who are highly qualified/credentialed, people who have qualified for entrance into elite programs, and put in the time and effort to progress to graduation; and yet for psychological reasons, they have great self doubts about their "worth". This is akin to depression. (a third party would look at you and say "wow, you are super competent and qualified, it's terrible you feel you aren't," and no pep talk they give you is going to help you.)

Then there are bouts of insecurity and guilt whereby any of us can feel like "I fibbed on my resume and interview to get this job, and I now I'm surrounded by people who know what they are doing, I hope nobody figures out I snuck in." This is akin to sadness. (a third party would look at you and say "ha ha serves you right, but it's always fake-it-till-you-make-it, everybody feels this way to start out, just grit your teeth, you'll be fine," and that pep talk will help you.)

Everybody experiences sadness; sadness clears up and goes away. Not everybody suffers clinical depression, and it does not go away on its own.

Dunning Kruger? it's not really an Effect, it's an observation/tendency that is explained by simple logic along the lines of, "you don't know what you don't know".

hirvi74 · 2 years ago
> Not everybody suffers clinical depression, and it does not go away on its own.

In many cases, depression does in fact go away on its own.

[1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10364186/

[2] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22883473/

jjeaff · 2 years ago
The Dunning Kruger studies were observations, but I believe I have seen the term "Dunning Kruger Effect" used pretty often to describe the possibly/likely explanation to why Dunning Kruger observed what they did. Which is that once someone learns just a little bit about a complex topic, the effect is that they start to over estimate their competency in said topic.

If it were simply the idea that you don't know what you don't know, then you would expect to observe over confidence in people who know almost nothing about a topic. I believe D & K observed a sort of bell curve. (actual knowledge level on the x axis and confidence of knowledge on the y)

fsckboy · 2 years ago
> If it were simply the idea that you don't know what you don't know

I wrote a simple phrase to refer to the "tip of an iceberg of associated ideas". To illustrate what I mean, you could rephrase your more detailed description of the gaussian to use "my" phrase to say "these people don't know anything, these people know more but don't know what they don't know" and these people know even more but do know what they don't know" etc.

chiefalchemist · 2 years ago
One is over-estimating what you know and are capable of. The other is, under-estimating.

The former is a problem because it often comes from a lack of self-awareness (and peers willing to speak up when you faulter). The latter can be a problem because it prevents you from fully offering what you have to offer.

Of course there's a sweet spot, but if you had to favor one or the other, lean towards Imposter. When you're in DK-mode you're far more likely to make "bad yeses" and those can be painful.

efitz · 2 years ago
I think that impostor syndrome is inextricably linked with Dunning-Kruger.

I believe that impostor syndrome is a lack of overconfidence in one's abilities- that implies that you have the ability to assess competence and to assess the skills needed for a job or task, and you don't default to "I know I can do it well". When you encounter a novel job or task, you don't immediately assume competence, and you will remain uncertain until you fully understand the requirements of the job or task. A lot of impostor syndrome comes from "don't fully understand what's required, but it looked complicated from the outside", and will go away with greater understanding provided you actually have the skills and the competence to self-assess.

If you lacked the ability to assess competence in yourself, then you likely would not have impostor syndrome.

I don't see why it's a balance. Impostor syndrome typically lessens over time as you become familiar with the job/task and the requirements necessary to perform well, and are better able to assess your own skills against those requirements.

If impostor syndrome doesn't go away with time, maybe you are correctly assessing that you don't (yet) have the requisite skills.

If you never get impostor syndrome, then you either aren't challenging yourself or you might not have the subject area competence to assess your own skills level vs. the jobs/tasks you take on, e.g. Dunning-Kruger effect.

nonrandomstring · 2 years ago
This explanation may help. I call it the "frontier effect" in development. It was taught to me by an old scientist.

Life is a frontier if you keep moving. As you progress in life you have fewer yardsticks to judge yourself against. At kindergarten we all chant in unison. By middle school you follow what the teacher says, but some people learn differently. It's probably the last "Standardised" (SAT) test you ever take.

At high school you are expected to read books by yourself and you choose different books than others. By university it's mostly hands-off, and only the lectures are common amidst diverse self-study. At PhD you know everything about a vanishingly small field, and by definition the doctoral graduate is the singular world expert on their tiniest corner of knowledge.

Each of us on a journey from a common place to a unique viewpoint in life, that can be quite lonely.

Regardless of whether you follow an academic path I think this applies to everyone. At the start it's easy to see how you measure up to others. By 40 you need to work hard to find smarter people to challenge you and you're not sure where you stand. You see that being smart or confident isn't all that, and it ruins some people. You see people you thought were smart do really dumb things, and people you considered below you race ahead by making wise life-choices.

I like the article because it hints at an important truth, that you can simultaneously be too self-assured and not enough. Our value systems for judging ourselves are weak in this society.

But as the objective clarity of that sweet spot wanes, something else kicks in as you age, which is a kind of contentment/wisdom. You care less about where you stand and are comfortable with mistakes. A few regrets adds character. Financial or institutional success are no longer good indicators as you start to turn to more spiritual ways of knowing where you stand.

BehindBlueEyes · 2 years ago
If imposter syndrome doesn’t go away with time, it is very possible the person overly focuses on knowledge/skills that are lacking but that are not required at all to perform at their job, and this can happen even when the person already is a/the top performer.
sonicanatidae · 2 years ago
I've spent a large part of my career managing IT teams. I've worked with a lot of noobs. The issue I find more often is not that they don't know the info, they simply don't have the confidence in what they know and no real practice applying it.

It's one thing to know that DNS travels over port 53, but leveraging that in troubleshooting is harder, since it may involve a firewall, switches, trunked ports, servers, workstations, etc.

It just takes time to learn the practical side and that's rarely taught in schools from what I've seen.

YMMV.

praash · 2 years ago
Good thoughts! I think there is much more nuance as I disagree with some of your points:

> I believe that impostor syndrome is a lack of overconfidence in one's abilities - that implies that you have the the ability to assess competence --

I think that competence in an ability is not perfectly synchronized with ability-assessment-competence.

I think ability-assessment-incompetence can result in both under- and overconfidence, before accounting for a self-esteem bias. Being underconfident is also an incorrect self-assessment, which doesn't imply ability-assessment-competence.

> If you lacked the ability to assess competence in yourself, then you likely would not have impostor syndrome.

Here I disagree the most. I think impostor syndrome can be the result of ability-assessment-incompetence, somewhat detached from their true competence in the actual abilities involved.

WarOnPrivacy · 2 years ago
> If you never get impostor syndrome, then you either aren't challenging yourself or you might not have the subject area competence to assess your own skills

I'm not disagreeing and I can allow that IS a natural and expected safety valve.

That said, I suggest that some individuals are better off without IS operating. They're less-than-qualified but they commit because they believe they'll figure it out in time.

For low-resource individuals, this can be the least-unlikely path from destitution.

kazinator · 2 years ago
What syndrome is: "I'm decent, though nothing special and have obvious limitations and weaknesses I acknowledge and work around; most others are incompetent."
pavlov · 2 years ago
Lack of empathy?
cfr2023 · 2 years ago
I heard David Letterman say within the past decade that on the days he did not feel the show was very good, he couldn't bring himself to even leave the building until it was dark outside, out of shame.

Meanwhile, at home, I would practically be shaking with excitement waiting for the show to start, I so appreciated it.

This tale somewhat suggests that people who perceive themselves as incompetent and inauthentic might spend more of their time striving at work, which could raise the bar, maintain a high standard and eventually breed something resembling confidence.

Or it could just continuously undermine their natural confidence and sense of self-worth and debase them such that they are easy to overwork and manipulate. It can also just feed into fears that invalidate the satisfaction of any jobs well done, leading to burn out and feelings of futility.

People who are overly confident can behave brashly and do damage, while automatically imposing costs on others, in the form of the time it takes to crack through their false beliefs or the duplication of effort it takes to walk back their mistakes.

So, this is kind of a nothing post, basically a lament. It's not clear whether suffers of Impostor Syndrome or Dunning-Kruger type symptoms have an easier path to a more moderate position, but each one seems likely to be rampant in just about any workplace.