You sound like you're being flaky yourself. Realize you have the idea. If you sit down and establish a timeline with someone like that, it'll be more successful. If not, you should just go to market yourself. Don't let your idea flop because you couldn't find the right person to pursue you, make them regret they flaked.
Readit Newssportnak commented on Ask HN: I've invented / patented something powerful. Now what? · Posted by u/ipoverip
But supposing everybody took your stance we wouldn't be able to have something like Hacker News. I think following popular developers and sharing what you believe to be good content may not be enjoyable all the time, but I do think it's necessary. Just as someone who has only been in the software culture for about two years now.