Readit Newspassing_through commented on Ask HN: What do you talk about in 1-on-1s with your managers? · Posted by u/gofreddygo
Netflix, movies, TV shows, hobbies, personal life. Sometimes work stuff.
passing_through commented on A systems model of anxiety-driven procrastination axle.design/a-systems-mod... · Posted by u/CiceroCiceronis
People, instead of visiting a psychiatrist, come up with various explanations and explanations that have nothing to do with psychiatry. And everyone pretends to be an expert on all issues that are far from psychiatry, from the methods of psychiatry, from pills and drugs and methods of treatment. But everyone tells with great certainty that "you are procrastinating, it is caused by X."
I have been procrastinating for over 10 years. And then it turned out - that this is a common depression.
Which ruined a lot of life. After starting treatment with a psychiatrist and taking pills, my working capacity increased significantly. There was a lot of strength and motivation.
My advice to those who feel problems with concentration, with the power to force themselves to do something, and so on. Just see a professional doctor. Come to the reception. Describe your situation. And according to the results, you will be prescribed pills that will help you, after a short period of time, significantly return what you have lost due to illness.
Hey, thanks for this! I've been considering going to the doctor for a long time, but never have. I just sent my GP an e-mail and hopefully will have an appointment set up soon.
passing_through commented on Estonia is a place for independent minds estonia.ee/... · Posted by u/lelf
Anecdotally, I can say that there is a strong distrust of Russians stemming from the various occupation of Baltic states as recently as 1991. [1]
[1] Source: My wife's estonian grandparents
I wouldn't say this is necessarily true in younger generations. I grew up with kids from Russian families in school & kindergarten and the distrust of Russians instilled in you by your parents quickly fades.
Older generations are a bit more problematic in this regard. I would say there's a general hate towards older Russians that still can't speak Estonian, even from younger generations.
However, I would say Russians are generally disadvantaged in Estonia and that's a big source of issues. In my childhood, younger Russians tended to be poorer and therefore were more involved in various criminal activities. Most of my friends and I were afraid of Russians in our area, as they liked to pick fights and generally mess with you.
passing_through commented on Most People With Addiction Grow Out of It (2014) psmag.com/social-justice/... · Posted by u/dedalus
I was addicted to computer games for a while. I never even really liked gaming, but it was a way to tune out the horrible life at home. Eventually, I kind of trained myself to like games; it's really weird too, thinking back I was the kid who liked long-term gratification over short-term, but eventually gaming changed me.
After I moved out, it was an anchor of sorts and I started playing even more. By this point, my gaming habits definitely matched up with the definition of addiction - at one point, I even went ~2 days without sleeping and eating.
The big change for me was getting a job. I couldn't fuck this up (considering I had already flunked out of university, getting a job in my dream field was a miracle), so I quit computer games. I've "relapsed" a few times since and every single time it has been horrible. It consumes me completely. I have now also decided to basically cut out any easy-to-consume entertainment out of my life. I spend my free time on books, nature and sports.
Looking back, it's the experience of totally fucking up my life through addiction that has helped me beat my addiction.
It's all good in the end. For 25 years of my life I thought everyone faked being happy. I now know that it actually is possible to be happy :).