I'm not taking a position here, and I'm not saying even that these stances are necessarily contradictory, but just that the blanket argument "X shouldn't get to be secret because I don't think they have a legitimate reason" doesn't differentiate between these two cases.
> just that the blanket argument "X shouldn't get to be secret because I don't think they have a legitimate reason" doesn't differentiate between these two cases.
Not only these cases -- that argument won't differentiate between any cases ;-).
Better I think to make sure we really understand the arguments being made. Good chance the real argument isn't quite _that_ bad.
Check zillow. Of the 32 units for rent in Brooklyn Heights, the cheapest is a tiny $2,600/month studio. The median rent is $4,500/month, and that's for an apartment with one bedroom and one bathroom.
No, I don't think allowing a 200 year old private rule to reduce living space in an age of incredible housing scarcity is good. I could not care less about your architectural consistency when it is part of the reason why people are sleeping on the streets and others are paying most of their income on rent.