I don’t think it’s possible to get sustained outstanding results without being part of the insider circle. As far as I know one of Warren Buffett’s close relatives was in Congress which probably also gave him access to people most regular citizens won’t have.
Of course you may not have had to study as hard, so your quality of life as a young person might have been better, but bartending is not secure income for life either.
Either way, the easiest way to look at it is, do parents tell their kids to aspire to become bartenders?
That sounds incredibly elitist and cringey. If I had a child earning six figures as a bartender I’d be very impressed, and even if they weren’t earning six figures but were enjoying life I’d be happy… And taking it from another perspective, I know people who’s parents would be disappointed their children are ‘lowly software engineers’ too. With that sort of attitude you can rarely win.
That would have been my cue to start polishing my CV.