A book that really helped me was ‘Stop overthinking’ by Nick Trenton. I still have those thoughts, Anxiety isn’t the easiest thing to get rid of.
Find what it is that you enjoy, build habits (tiny habits / atomic habits are great references) and you might find that just moving a tiny bit in the direction that makes you happy might compound over time.
Success isn’t always about careers or large paydays. Your health, relationships, hobbies, identity and sanity play a big part of that as well.
I have friends who moved to other countries and restarted their lives at the age of 35/40, and I met people in their 70s who done the same.
Good luck!
Pikku aims to take a different approach:
- Define a function once → invoke it from HTTP, WebSockets, queues, cron, or even Postgres.
- Deployment is your choice: single process, containers, serverless, or workers. Pick your own queue library, deploy scheduled tasks via lambda, the choice is endless.
- Fully typed, end-to-end → auto-generated clients are tiny, just thin wrappers over existing libs.
Built-in support for services, middleware, permissions, and auth.
Docs & examples: pikku.dev