- X happened
- Person P says "Ah, X happened."
- Person Q interprets this in a particular way
and says "Stop saying X is BAD!"
- Person R, who already knows about X...
(and indifferent to what others notice
or might know or be interested in)
...says "(yawn)".
- Person S narrowly looks at Person R and says
"Oh, so you think Repugnant-X is ok?"
What a train wreck. Such failure modes are incredibly common. And preventable.* What a waste of the collective hours of attention and thinking we are spending here that we could be using somewhere else.See also: the difference between positive and normative; charitable interpretations; not jumping to conclusions; not yucking someone else's yum
* So preventable that I am questioning the wisdom of spending time with any communication technology that doesn't actively address these failures. There is no point at blaming individuals when such failures are a near statistical certainty.
I'm also pretty content accepting the unpleasant parts of reality without spin or optimism. Sometimes the better choice is still crappy, after all ;) I think Oliver Burkeman makes a fun and thoughtful case in "The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking" https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/13721709-the-antidote