Similarly, my husband is a commercial pilot and is now starting to make more money than me in tech after his 10+ years of underpaid work and a high student loan debt load.
But, here's the deal: he's basically going to make top dollar until he's 65. Meanwhile, I'll likely be seen as a dinosaur in tech by that age and will be lucky to find work at all.
I imagine your wife will be seen the same way. She can comfortably work until retirement age, in an profession that sees experience as a positive thing, while you might be a pariah before you know it.
Yes, we make good money when we're young in tech. But we age out much more quickly due to the bias common in our industry.
> But we age out much more quickly due to the bias common in our industry.
Just prove you lost a job or weren't hired due to age, and you'll have a lawsuit that results in a large enough settlement you will once again be paid more than your spouse and won't even need to work.
If you have reason to believe you were terminated or not hired because of age, meet with a lawyer. If a lawsuit it filed, discovery is a powerful tool in litigation to help gather evidence that is generally required to prove the claim. Often this will be data about the other employees they have let go or in the case you weren't hired the age of the person ultimately hired and those that were interviewed but not hired.
There are about 10,000-15,000 a year, like all areas of law probably about 90% settle pre-trial.