Do you have any time for yourself? -> One kid is not that bad from a free time perspective, but when you have two there's maybe five hours a week for each parent and it ends up being zero sum with two (or more) on one childcare.
Where are all the tech dads? -> Age peers in tech don't seem to have kids despite being the small slice of people arguably able to comfortably afford it. Mostly seem to bank up cash and have kids in mid to late 30s and slow lane themselves.
I wrote a bit about my experience being a founder and a dad where I started my company in the same month as my wife and I found out she was pregnant with our first child. Link here: https://rogerkirkness.com/founder-and-father
Being a younger dad relative to my kids age, it has been very isolating and challenging to find anyone who shares my lifestyle, my responsibilities, who can really understand the stage of life I am in. They are usually either very pre-kid and enjoy life independently, without much awareness or desire thereof to the responsibility of parenthood, or, they are on the opposite end and fully settled down and have forgotten what a city looks like after dark.
There are a lot of factors at play so we can’t quite put our thumb on JSONPath, but it’s the current suspect and curious if others have run into anything similar.