The real lesson here: don't forget to bribe the president of the US.
I'm sure TP-Link could help fund a second ball room.
Readit Newsstarttoaster commented on Drilling down on Uncle Sam's proposed TP-Link ban krebsonsecurity.com/2025/... · Posted by u/todsacerdoti
starttoaster commented on Social anxiety isn't about being liked chrislakin.blog/p/social-... · Posted by u/rohmanhakim
Not who you asked.
With age Ive found myself much more comfortable with folks "being mean, but in a friendly way" as they intend it. When I was younger though, I never understood why folks didn't instead just "say the nice part." Like, if your friends are always glad you join them even if you're always late, making fun of you for being late with a big smile can still feel pretty bad for you. Much better to say "hey please don't be late" and also "we really enjoy you spending time with us."
With age Ive come to see that for reasons I don't understand, lots of folks have a massive aversion to saying clearly the things they appreciate about the people around them directly. Eh, their loss.
I think there's a bit more to it than that. Being mean in a friendly way is sort of a sport, for some people finding a good quip is about the mental challenge of wordsmithing. It's easy, and not all that creative, to say "don't be late" and also with certain people can come across more negatively than just jokingly berating them, believe it or not. It sounds more serious. Something like, "glad you made it, Leland! We were just posting a GoFundMe to buy you a watch." Said in the right way with people you are very familiar with keeps a lighter tone, and less like I'm actually upset (even if I may be.) Not that I'd ever say something like that in a professional setting or to people I'm not actually strong friends with; those people just get a "glad you made it, Leland!"
It's also sort of the same reason shows like It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia are funny. When you're jokingly mean to a friend, you're being a bit of a caricature, an exaggeration. That's part of the fun of it, too. And why it can get a point across while keeping it light.
starttoaster commented on Social anxiety isn't about being liked chrislakin.blog/p/social-... · Posted by u/rohmanhakim
Only some kind of men behave like that. I had many friends growing up and we never did that sort of thing, and it always put me off to see people who did.
Why did it put you off? Did you not understand the intention behind the words, or were the words unforgiveable despite their intention?
As far as I was aware taxis were an imagined thing we saw in movies. I understand you could call a number and ask for a ride to the airport though they were never useful.
They're always more common in metro areas of the US. You must be from a relatively rural area and don't get out of it much.
That said, uh, the use of getting a taxi to drive you to or from the airport was just not having to park at the airport which generally costs a lot of money, and in certain areas is a little sketchy on whether or not your car will get cracked open while you're away.
starttoaster commented on OPA maintainers and Styra employees hired by Apple blog.openpolicyagent.org/... · Posted by u/crcsmnky
Based on Apple's acquisition of FoundationDB, this seems like it will have negative consequences for public development of OPA.
What are the counterexamples, where Apple acquiring a project results in it being more open with sustained development?
CUPS?
starttoaster commented on If you're remote, ramble stephango.com/ramblings... · Posted by u/lawgimenez
But you still know they are there, and that your colleagues should perceive you as at least casually interested in what the others are up to. Even if muted, these channels inevitably become another liability.
I think everyone knows and silently understands that the people responding/emoji-ing in those channels all day every day are doing so at the cost of work output, and that there are a lot of people working that aren't typing away about the last audiobook they listened to. I think you've created a stressful situation out of something that isn't inherently stressing.
starttoaster commented on Your Job used to impress people. That era just ended carmenvankerckhove.substa... · Posted by u/lordleft
I don't think AI is central to this article at all (altho, sure, it's mentioned)
The opening story is about how the narrator was replaced by AI, but trades workers cannot. And that doesn't strike you as setting up AI to be central to the article?
starttoaster commented on Japan's IC cards are weird and wonderful aruarian.dance/blog/japan... · Posted by u/aecsocket
Variety is good! The fact the USA only has Mastercard and Visa and that they've colluded to keep all other forms of payments out is why their fees aren't lower.
https://www.justice.gov/archives/opa/pr/justice-department-s...
Japan has competition in payment systems. Paypay, D-Pay, Meri-pay, Line Pay, Rakuten Pay, etc... Each tries to entice both customers and retailers by offering discounts and bonuses.
Also I'm happy to pay cash as it's private.
USA has Visa, Mastercard, Discover, and AmEx. Each of which try to entice their customers by offering better rewards programs. Though AmEx isn't taken everywhere (notably Costco) and Discover is hit and miss as well.
starttoaster commented on Claude can now search the web anthropic.com/news/web-se... · Posted by u/meetpateltech
One suggested weakness of UBI is a lack of purpose. I wonder if the "solution" is somewhat as you implied: jobs without a strict return on investment. You get your stipend, but you're keeping your block clean by sweeping and mulching. They're getting theirs in exchange for cranking out sourdough at cost for the neighbourhood. Someone else gardens for elderly residents.
That sounds like a simpler life/role, not a pointless one.
There is no reason to self manage pg for dev / environnement.
https://aws.amazon.com/rds/aurora/serverless/
"vastly superior to self hosting regarding observability" I'd suggest looking into the cnpg operator for Postgres on Kubernetes. The builtin metrics and official dashboard is vastly superior to what I get from Cloudwatch for my RDS clusters. And the backup mechanism using Barman for database snapshots and WAL backups is vastly superior to AWS DMS or AWS's disk snapshots which aren't portable to a system outside of AWS if you care about avoiding vendor lock-in.