raindropm (u/raindropm)

raindropm commented on I deleted my second brain joanwestenberg.com/p/i-de... · Posted by u/MrVandemar

manmal · 2 months ago

Discarding the hoard has mainly psychological upsides in this case.

raindropm · 2 months ago

I think hoarding is humanity's default mode of operation, and that why I see lots of comments resist not hoarding.

I live and hoard long enough to know I rarely look back to stuff I've saved, things that I hope it will spark my creativity someday, never arrives (except for some really rare case, which is like 'hey, I remember this...,cool', you relish the nostalgia for a bit and then you move on eventually)

I agree with you that even digital stuff took toll on your mind. I remember the sadness but then big relief when my old HDD gone, along with stuffs. The thought that I don't have to worry about it anymore is a plus in itself.

raindropm commented on Cozy video games can quell stress and anxiety reuters.com/business/reta... · Posted by u/vinhnx

anal_reactor · 4 months ago

Yes. I never enjoyed "cozy" games. Whenever I see them, I recognize that I'm supposed to feel coziness, but I don't. They're just boring, nothing happens. They remind me of places where I have to behave, which makes me stressed out.

Violent games, on the other hand, will take my attention, and have me stop thinking about the real-world stress. I really miss the craze of violent and edgy games of 2000's. Any recommendations?

I guess the bottom line is "people relax when doing hobbies" which is not a revolutionary take.

raindropm · 4 months ago

>They remind me of places where I have to behave, which makes me stressed out.

Thanks for putting the word for it. That's what I feel about many of those 'cozy' games. It's like when you meditate and you force yourself to be calm, which give the opposite results.

I love some of those cozy game of course(the latest is called "Wilmot's Works It Out") but it's nothing compare to the calm when I play older 90-early 2000s videogames again, or the time you walk aimlessly in Skyrim. Maybe it has things to do with the zero expectation(playing old, outdated games that no one play anymore gives you peace of mind that you don't have to be FOMO of being 'cozy' or anything..which make you ended up naturally...cozy)

raindropm commented on Google is winning on every AI front thealgorithmicbridge.com/... · Posted by u/vinhnx

raindropm · 4 months ago

Gemini is really good, dev is happy, cost is low, but the mass just don't use it, The UX feels...weird(in my opinion), and Google marketing just sucks. Look at the craze of GPT-4o image gen launch, Pretty sure none of that will ever happened with Gemini(which tbf, have extremely good imagen too!) They have weird too-careful-and-afraid-to-step-on-someone-toes approach to marketing, and that shows.

OpenAI have Sam as 'presenter' that people can hear him talk enthusiastically, Grok have Elon, even though that not really help much. Gemini? just AI product from faceless mega corporate. People don't feel relate to that. The emotion is part of equation of why people use something, not just function.

Also doesn't help with ChatGPT name already cemented in AI history. Every Bob and Jane heard about ChatGPT even they're use it once, but Gemini...who?

raindropm commented on Omnivore Is Joining ElevenLabs blog.omnivore.app/p/omniv... · Posted by u/janpio

raindropm · 10 months ago

Great, and I just recently move from Pocket a couple of months ago because I love how clean Omnivore is. Seems you can't escape the impermanence of digital life, so certain that it even rival death and taxes.

raindropm commented on Nothing: Simply Do Nothing usenothing.com/... · Posted by u/psvisualdesign

raindropm · a year ago

Funny how HN always find a way to be critical on virtually EVERYTHING. :p

I think it's brilliant site, you visit the site or share it with someone, read the text, it make you feel grounded and even spark something inside you that you forget in the busy day.

Walking is cool, but it's definitely different from be still and doing nothing. Sometimes you go to walk, but your mind still racing from all the things that you want to escape, which doesn't help at all, because the point of all this is doing NOTHING, yes, even daydreaming. Your just lightly aware of your mind and self in the now, and that's all, no thought, just like meditation.

raindropm commented on TradingView's Emotional Subscription Cancellation hallofshame.design/tradin... · Posted by u/popcalc

bluelightning2k · a year ago

I know I'm taking the wrong takeaway from this, but that jenga metaphor animation is kind of genius.

raindropm · a year ago

I think it's delightful(and maybe that influence me not to cancel the sub, because it's too cute? maybe..) Personally I think it's just normal-mildly-manipulative marketing trick and that's all. If we're talking about real dark pattern, there are much more malicious examples than this one out there...

raindropm commented on Slowroads slowroads.io/... · Posted by u/rcarmo

_aavaa_ · a year ago

They have a FAQ about it, but I still think that the name and speed are all wrong.

The core of the demo is that procedurally generated landscape and how that's supposed to evoke a feeling. I am paying 0 attention to the hills as the UI, sounds, and boost button are all clearly designed to get me to drift around these bends as quickly as possible.

To me, those two parts of the game are absolutely pulling in opposite directions.

raindropm · a year ago

You can click the padlock icon at the bottom to select auto cruise speed, I think around 25-30 mph is kinda good spot.

raindropm commented on Procrastination is connected to perfectionism solvingprocrastination.co... · Posted by u/EndXA

njsubedi · 2 years ago

Two tiny hacks changed my lifelong procrastination and people-pleasing nature.

1. Instead of “what will they think?” always ask yourself the alternative question, “what do I want?”. This saves you a lot of time and trouble. Do what you like to see what people will say. Make it a fun game.

2. If something takes less than 2 minutes, just go do it. Make it your “kick”. After few weeks, work your way to turn 2 minutes to 5 then 10 minutes. You will get so much done because of the inertia.

raindropm · 2 years ago

Ah, fellow people-pleaser!

For me, what help a lot is reframing feedback, whatever it is, as opportunity for learning, and not something you need to fear, ashamed, or get rid of(to keep face) Embrace it. See it with the eyes of curiosity, and not fear.

Still do your best, yes, but not overly anxious about things you can't control, e.g. what people think.

raindropm commented on Procrastination is connected to perfectionism solvingprocrastination.co... · Posted by u/EndXA

kthejoker2 · 2 years ago

I probably have a whole personal blog of my own on the topic, dear as it is to my soul.

My two main pieces of advice: The bar is very very low, and share your burden quickly.

99 times out of 100 you are way overestimating the value of what you're delivering and people's expectations for it, and underestimating the value of time i.e. shipping quickly.

I've turned in so many things I'm not happy with and gotten a "this is great" that now I frequently just send over pseudocode, whiteboard sketches, and bullet point design docs to just get going on the feedback loop. Nobody has ever said "this is so bad we can't use any of it."

I also realized I do much better finishing other people's work than starting my own .. and so does almost everyone else. Bringing other people in overcomes "the boredom paradox" of a looming deadline - working with other people has its own challenges, but it is definitely not boring!

One specific thing I did that helped a few years ago at my precious company was I told my team, wrote in my email signature, ran a small study group, etc. On grit, procrastination, and "growth mindset" and just made a very intentional effort to tell people how I struggled with this problem.

So many people shared the problem! It really gave us a nice community and helped us (and management) recognize some of these issues, lesrn some new techniques, and get better at coaching, setting expectations, and ultimately managing the work.

So maybe last piece of advice is be open if you have these issues.

raindropm · 2 years ago

It's so relatable, especially after learning that I might have an ADHD condition. I also learned that it's linked to perfectionism and procrastination, traits that have defined me all my life.

I'm still somewhat of a perfectionist, an old habit, but I'm now much more aware that a quick feedback loop and shipping things are far more valuable than perfect, over-optimized work. People may love such work, but it's often overkill and involves too many unnecessary hours of effort.

raindropm commented on Hacking ADHD: Strategies for the modern developer ledger.com/blog/hacking-a... · Posted by u/vberg

plutoh28 · 2 years ago

Call me naive but I find that the term ADHD has become far too general and overused. It’s a common scapegoat for what could otherwise be described as bad habits for a lot of people.

raindropm · 2 years ago

It could be, yeah, like many things, I guess — gluten, hormones, etc.

Maybe we'll find out later that all of this is just some big mass hallucination we all try to believe in order to cope with today's horrible work life. Though, for me, the symptoms described are so accurate it's scary, and they explain my lifelong struggles — it's a revelation, really. It provides a glimpse of the signposts I can look for when I need help.

I'll also keep in mind that any concept we have about ADHD now can also change when we have more evidence (or not), but I'm subscribed to it for now.