All this rings true, which brings me to this question: are Guessers just a bunch of Overthinkers?
They are, yes
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lloydjones commented on 'Askers' vs. 'Guessers' (2010) theatlantic.com/national/... · Posted by u/BoorishBears
I think guessers agonise over HOW to say "No" in contexts like this, and what it says about them as people.
"Can my family and I stay for two weeks?".
Then:
"No." (looks cold and heartless; do I want to project cold and heartless? Will they hate me?).
"I'm so sorry but I'm not able to. The house is a mess and it's really small" (performative, hand-wringing reluctance; we both know I'm lying).
"I just don't like to share my environment" (most truthful; might look petty to those who don't understand the need for privacy to that degree).
Having said that, I have become a lot better at being direct these past few years, so I'd likely just say "I'm not able to, sorry. I can recommend some good hotels though".
lloydjones commented on 'Askers' vs. 'Guessers' (2010) theatlantic.com/national/... · Posted by u/BoorishBears
Discomfort is present only if you suspect they're a Guesser and thus one of you has greatly misjudged the relationship and social context.
If you know or suspect they're an Asker the discomfort disappears because you say "No" and they say "OK, cool".
I think guessers agonise over HOW to say "No" in contexts like this, and what it says about them as people.
"Can my family and I stay for two weeks?".
Then:
"No." (looks cold and heartless; do I want to project cold and heartless? Will they hate me?).
"I'm so sorry but I'm not able to. The house is a mess and it's really small" (performative, hand-wringing reluctance; we both know I'm lying).
"I just don't like to share my environment" (most truthful; might look petty to those who don't understand the need for privacy to that degree).
I feel that his pretentious, overwrought and unctuous writing was perhaps all because of an emptiness or inadequacy… His final years as a nice old gay man seem much more _normal_ and real, and he seems less of a fantasist at that stage…
lloydjones commented on AI agents break rules under everyday pressure spectrum.ieee.org/ai-agen... · Posted by u/pseudolus
Unfortunately, it doesn't look like the EU will actually be able to put any meaningful guardrails on AI, as evidenced by the AI act. I honestly don't know whether it's an off-the-scales level of incompentence or just blatant corruption (I vote both), but in any event, I think AI regulation has already failed, somewhat irreversably.
I’m more optimistic. I see there being iterations developed in conjunction with industry. It will sooner or later become strongly enforced and then to whatever extent it provides guardrails will be down to provisions in the act, plus interpretation.
lloydjones commented on Transparent leadership beats servant leadership entropicthoughts.com/tran... · Posted by u/ibobev
I don’t really relate to many comments here stating “my approach is X”, or “I went from servant-leader to process-master-whatever leader”.
I’ve found that trying to be anything but flexible to the environment is unrealistic and even egotistical.
E.g, There are some environments where the CEO is so “command and control” that the “I want us all to bring our authentic selves to the peace circle of work, and from each according to his ability, to each according to his needs, we will figure out a synergy that works for all” just won’t ever work.
And for me, being unable to adapt the approach to environment suggests ‘one trick pony’.
lloydjones commented on AI agents break rules under everyday pressure spectrum.ieee.org/ai-agen... · Posted by u/pseudolus
I tried to think about how we might (in the EU) start to think about this problem within the law, if of interest to anyone: https://www.europeanlawblog.eu/pub/dq249o3c/release/1
And a load of fake DMARC setup confirmation emails for a domain I own.