Neural ODE reframes this: instead of focusing on the weights, focus on how they change. It sees training as finding a path from untrained to trained state. At each step, it uses ODE solvers to compute the next state, continuing for N steps till it reaches values matching training data. This gives you the solution for the trained network.
Another group within my company is evaluating them right now and the early results seems to be "not very accurate, but directionally correct and very fast" so there may be some value in non-FEM experts using them to quickly tell if A or B is a better design; but will still need a more proper analysis in more accurate tools.
It's still early though and we're just starting to see the first non-research solvers hitting the market.