Quite ironic they suggest we use "demanding or entitled White woman" instead of "Karen". Isn't a Karen actually a "a female of European descent struggling with mental conditions of entitlement?"
Readit Newsholdenc commented on Stanford's “Elimination of Harmful Language” Initiative itcommunity.stanford.edu/... · Posted by u/ryzvonusef
holdenc commented on A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem theatlantic.com/family/ar... · Posted by u/wiihack
Today its glasses of water by the sink, tomorrow it's "you have to sanitize the car steering wheel after you drive," and eventually it's "don't get close to me if you walked by the bus stop." I feel sorry for anyone who has to endure this.
You have not really given us enough information to suggest the best solution. For example, is this because you host many websites for other people who all use your custom nameservers? Either way, if you are hosting many sites with custom nameservers, look at what AWS does for its nameservers for route53. Theirs are set-up like so:
ns-1271.awsdns-11.co.uk
ns-522.awsdns-02.net
ns-433.awsdns-03.com
ns-1870.awsdns-03.org
In your case, you'd likely want to each domain used in your custom nameserver configuration to be registered at a different company. In this way, you no longer have a single point of failure.
holdenc commented on I think US college education is nearer to collapsing than it appears twitter.com/sama/status/1... · Posted by u/jger15
While I agree that 200K in debt for a BA in English is not a wise choice, there's a whole class of families that can afford the 200K out of pocket, and will happily pay it for a top school. I have a child, and will do it for the following reasons:
- You only get one chance to be 18 - 22 years old. College is a great way to improve your appreciation of culture, society, and build social skills, prior to taking a full time job.
- I know many youngsters here will likely have a problem with this -- but the average 18 year old has some intellectual and emotional maturing to do. This can happen via the social and academic challenges of college. In fact, the best colleges will sell this over any practical skills.
Work life can be a grind, even for someone with their dream job. When was the last time you had a chance to try your hand at literary criticism, or game theory, or learning a new language? How did it go the first time you had to ask for help with an intellectual problem? (Probably a distant thought in the minds of the average senior developer). How about the last time you had to cooperate with several people you dislike? College is a good place to get started with these things.
Desperation might build motivation, but it will also ensure short-term thinking (needing to pay one's bills and feed one's family tends to do that). The most successful companies adopt a longer view, and this might be far easier without the immediacy of insolvency looming.
Getting from zero to paying one's living expenses is probably the most difficult growth phase of any start-up. In my personal experience, this phase is best funded by technical debt. I suspect this is an unpopular opinion because cleaning up technical debt is no fun. None-the-less, I've seen it over and over -- a quasi-technical founder knows someone willing pay for XYZ, then that person makes it just well enough to work. A company is born, the rent gets paid, and perhaps an acquiring company cleans-up the tech stack.
holdenc commented on Ask HN: How do you deal with getting old and feeling lost? · Posted by u/trendingwaifu
My friend, you are not lost -- you are free. From what I can tell, you have your health, your youth (35 is still young) and you have some savings. If you don't have a mortgage, kids, a spouse, and a job you cannot leave, then you are free. The next step is to see the world. Get a one-way ticket to Chiang Mai and try to stay as long as possible. Learn the language, get a scooter, and talk to people. Live close to the earth, and when you eventually miss home, you will return a different person. Certain places are easier to reboot yourself than others. Pick some place warm and friendly.
holdenc commented on Interview with Charlie Munger on Controversial UCSB Dorm architecturalrecord.com/a... · Posted by u/wjSgoWPm5bWAhXB
The building has all the charm of a temperature-controlled storage facility, which sadly, is what it seems to be.
holdenc commented on Tokyo’s 7-Elevens and convenience stores latimes.com/sports/olympi... · Posted by u/thunderbong
Nice, but Taiwan has the best 7-11's. Take a look:
https://www.google.com/maps/place/%E6%9A%97%E9%BB%91%E5%B0%8...
holdenc commented on The vital art of talking to strangers economist.com/books-and-a... · Posted by u/abixb
Totally agree.
Even without the opposition, there's a similar issue about having vulnerable conversations. I had a buddy over last night and he relayed an experience he had in NYC a few weeks ago. He was at a bar and saw this guy that just looked like he was in a bad place. He debated for a while whether or not to say anything but ultimately decided to break the ice and offer him a drink. The guy said he had to pace himself b/c he was going to be there a while. My buddy's intuition was that this guy was close to walking in front of a subway train, so he said something along the lines of 'hey I'm happy to give you your privacy but I guarantee I'm a great listener'. The guy then proceeds to say that he and his oldest son were what he called 'vocal twins'. They sounded identical to each other in timbre and phrasing and mannerisms and everything. Well, six weeks prior, his son committed suicide while away at school. Obviously devastating to him and his wife, but eventually life has to start to resume. The guy was just getting started back at work and was on a call. Meanwhile his wife had just arrived home from grocery shopping, and upon hearing him on the phone immediately starting screaming and running into the room thinking her boy was back.
Talking it through, this guy and his wife decided that he would leave for a bit...but he wasn't sure how to know when it was ok to go back if his voice was going to trigger her that much. After that, my buddy and this guy proceeded to talk for another two hours about kids and life and work and I can't imagine the guy felt worse after.
My buddy is a natural extrovert and 20 years of being a lawyer in NYC has tuned his social instrument to a level that's rather magnificent to behold. If you tried to repeat this scenario on Twitter or in a subreddit or here on HN, all of the non-verbal cues that started and sustained the (IMHO very intimate and vulnerable) conversation would be completely absent.
Brilliant story. This is the NYC that I remember.
holdenc commented on 8-Year-Old Calls Out NPR for Lack of Dinosaur Stories npr.org/2021/02/09/965953... · Posted by u/sharkweek
This humble letter follows some good rules for short persuasive prose:
- Don't generalize or pontificate
- Draw from specific facts or experiences
- Qualify your thesis statement as a suggestion or polite request