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esistgut commented on Live near your friends   headlineshq.substack.com/... · Posted by u/thenobsta
arthurofbabylon · 2 years ago
Alternatively: make friends with everyone nearby.

I've been traveling full- or part-time for the last 10+ years, and I've adopted the strategy of rapidly developing friendships. The person who sells bread, the person I see on walk after walk, the person I'm meeting for the first or 4th time... I'm just open-minded and open-hearted, genuinely curious, generous with my time and attention... and it's awesome. With just a few interactions, I feel like I am with my people, that I am valued, that I am around people I appreciate.

Occasionally I'm met with suspicion (some people don't believe that I am seriously that curious/excited about XYZ that we are doing together), but overall most people seem to appreciate the ready camaraderie. Occasionally I get burned by forming too deep of a connection too quickly with someone who turns out to be untrustworthy, but time has proven that that is a worthwhile risk to take on.

I think of community as a pyramid – there are infrequent acquaintances at the base, and best friends and family at the top. All of it matters. My strategy is basically to respect the entire pyramid, showing up as fully as possible for everyone.

Forming friendships rapidly is not easy – it has taken me many years to learn to soften myself and open the mind, but I do keep getting better at it, for everyone's benefit. It greatly helps to share projects (in my case, mostly rock climbing).

Note that walking (to the grocery store, when bored, when the sun is setting) is a phenomenal way to feel connected with nearby people.

esistgut · 2 years ago
Can I ask where are you from and where are you living/traveling? What you describe seems to be just the standard way of living and interacting with people almost everywhere here in Italy. Well, it is more common in smaller communities and in the southern part of Italy. Of course it is a generalization so it isn't an absolute truth. My point is that even with this kind of interaction I find it very very hard to find friends even remotely comparable to the friends I have been growing up with. It feels like the word "friend" is misused if I use to describe people I have know for 30+ years and people I have met in the last couple years both.
esistgut commented on Amazon Prime Video content to start including ads next year   bbc.co.uk/news/business-6... · Posted by u/mellosouls
rendall · 2 years ago
I flat out do not watch ads. If a platform has ads, I do not watch it full stop. I pay YouTube for no ads. If I lost that option, I would not watch YouTube. Same with all of the other streaming services. Netflix pushed it last year with preview rolls. It was barely acceptable/tolerable. But I will eagerly jettison any service that makes me pay for ads.

Heck, I even look askance at people who willingly pay money to unironically wear logos. Why do you do that? You, yes, you reading this. Why do you buy Nike clothing or Adidas track suits or Louis Vuitton anything?? Explain yourself.

esistgut · 2 years ago
I buy Nike running shoes because they are cheap, durable and comfortable, I don't actually use the to run. The other obvious answer to this question is "because they are status symbols", for some people anyway.
esistgut commented on Perseus – NextJS alternative in Rust   framesurge.sh/perseus/en-... · Posted by u/erlend_sh
pachico · 2 years ago
I have this feeling that I am wasting my time by not learning Rust.

I am a proficient Go programmer but I have this sensation I cannot really describe about that not being enough.

I feel something similar with Zig.

Am I the only one?

esistgut · 2 years ago
I don't know you so the following could be wrong or condescending, please take it as a general consideration towards people in a similar state of computer science fatigue and it really talks more about me than you: before learning a new language only because of a latent feeling of guilt please consider there is a world of knowledge not directly related to CS and STEM that could literally broaden your senses or at least the way you approach reality. Think of learning a musical instrument: you will literally perceive new nuances in an aspect of reality, akin to see new colors. You have only one shot at this, are you sure, in the end, another programming language will make any difference at all?
esistgut commented on Phoenix Dev Blog – Streams   fly.io/phoenix-files/phoe... · Posted by u/losvedir
wzy · 2 years ago
How is the link down given that Fly.io is an cloud/edge hosting service?
esistgut · 2 years ago
Today they rolled some kind of upgrade and my backend become unreachable for hours, this is not my first problem with them. I assembled a quick docker-compose.yml and moved to Hetzner. Fly is pushing a lot of blog worthy stuff but it is not production ready.
esistgut commented on EU lawmakers approve effective 2035 ban on new fossil fuel cars   reuters.com/business/auto... · Posted by u/huijzer
2OEH8eoCRo0 · 3 years ago
I'm in the US but if the US govt passed a ban on gas vehicles effective today, I'd be extremely upset. I love my car.
esistgut · 3 years ago
It's not a ban on gas vehicles, it's a ban on new sales of gas vehicles. Your car would be perfectly fine.
esistgut commented on Modern PHP   dnlytras.com/blog/modern-... · Posted by u/doppp
unfocussed_mike · 3 years ago
> The defacto package manager, Composer, is also world class.

Composer suddenly got good, didn't it! Composer 1.x was one of my pain points I think.

I can't think of many things that really bug me much anymore.

Null coalescing operators and named parameters are the kinds of things that make me happy.

I also adore Laravel (and particularly Lighthouse).

But what I really like about PHP is the humility and maturity of the whole endeavour. It's really typified by Rasmus Lerdorf who openly critiques his own abilities and seeks out smart people.

esistgut · 3 years ago
Lighthouse is an hidden gem. I moved some projects from Node/Typescript to Laravel/Lighthouse after discovering it.
esistgut commented on AMD is now worth more than Intel   seekingalpha.com/article/... · Posted by u/clove
esistgut · 3 years ago
This may be a naive tough but the unfolding of the ukranian events had me wondering again and again if more attention should be used when buying items coming from China and TSMC. The rise of the Ryzen CPUs had me switch to AMD from Intel after many years. Next time I could actually prefer the worst CPU as long as it is built in the west. Is this an oversemplification? Am I wrong? Anyone here share similar toughts?
esistgut commented on Linux Has Grown into a Viable PC Gaming Platform and the Steam Stats Prove It   hothardware.com/news/linu... · Posted by u/rbanffy
Nihilartikel · 4 years ago
I bought Doom Eternal and Overload (spiritual successor of the 'Descent' franchise) over the cyber-Monday, and still haven't spoiled my uptime by booting Windows play them. With Steam's Proton there's been almost no problems or even obvious performance loss. Smooth 4k 60hz experience for both on Ubuntu 20.04 w/ Geforce 1070. No tricky optimizations or drivers.

The only issues were some audio crackle in Doom before I implemented the forum wisdom to set PulseAudio to 48khz, and, the annoyance that 'tab' stops working in game if I alt-tab out and back.

esistgut · 4 years ago
Push "alt" when you are in game and "tab" should work again.

u/esistgut

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