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biinui commented on The hikikomori in Asia: A life within four walls   cnn.com/interactive/2024/... · Posted by u/reqo
Xeyz0r · 2 years ago
At some point, I became so angry with this feeling that I stopped caring about what people would think of me altogether. However, this was somewhat destructive for me. Eventually, I seeked help.
biinui · 2 years ago
If you don't mind, how has the seeking help fare? I'm interested for my own situation.
biinui commented on Ask HN: What's the best book you've read so far in 2024?    · Posted by u/iamthirsty
biinui · 2 years ago
The Midnight Library. It helped me process my regrets. And frame my mind to do my best with the life that I have now.
biinui commented on Vietnamese property tycoon sentenced to death in $27B fraud case   theguardian.com/world/202... · Posted by u/spxneo
aurareturn · 2 years ago
Edit to my post above:

She actually stole 10.7% ($44b) of Vietnam's yearly GDP in total. The 6.6% figure was the amount that she couldn't return.

So it's like $2.7 trillion USD in the US.

Stealing this proportion of a country's money by one person is simply unprecedented.

biinui · 2 years ago
Is there a reason she couldn't return that much? Was it already spent or locked in offshore accounts? Or given to other accomplices?
biinui commented on Ask HN: Who needs help this holidays?    · Posted by u/atdrummond
wyclif · 2 years ago
I hesitate to post here because I really don't like talking about my problems and have never written anything like this before.

I'm one of the original members of HN and I've been here for a long time; since week one I think.

I'm an American technologist who has done web dev work in the past, but right now I'm stuck on an island in the Philippines without income or employment, and things are getting pretty desperate since it's this close to Christmas and my wife and I have two young children (my youngest is five). The pantry and coffers are empty at this point. The reason I'm here is because my family are citizens of this country and although I am trying to get the immigration paperwork together to bring them to the States, there's quite a lot of red tape and it's taking a lot longer than I expected.

Until recently I had been working remotely but the company I had been with sold and got folded into a bigger corporation and I was laid off along with our dev team.

My goal is to find an entry level back end or front end role that is remote for now. I am working on my Python-fu and I also have experience with HTML/CSS/JavaScript. I am interested in cloud-based technologies.

Since then I've been sending resumes out and doing interviews, but I'm not getting any response or feedback so far whatsoever... not a single bite. The recent trend of BTO (Back to the office) has been killing my chances, I think. I'm willing to take just about any job, help desk, on call, roles that are APAC time zone-only, anything as long as I can do it from here in the PH.

I know this is a long shot but things are getting pretty desperate for me. My family is basically rationing and we're living very close to the edge of bankruptcy. I would be overwhelmed with gratitude if there was help, but most of all I want to just help myself. I am a hard worker and enthusiastic about work in general, and I have a technical background and have worked in several technical roles in the past. Thank you and happy holidays to whoever reads this!

biinui · 2 years ago
I'm from PH. Email me your résumé if you still need help. I can also send you food for the holidays.
biinui commented on Ask HN: Laid off folks, are you getting hired?    · Posted by u/bosch_mind
jaxomlotus · 3 years ago
Here's the flip side: I was hiring (at a stealth vc-funded startup).

I reached out to every designer and coder laid off from Twitter and Amazon (one of my investors sent me a spreadsheet that those laid off folks added their contact info to).

I didn't receive a single interested response to my reach outs. Now granted, I'm sure they were bombarded with lots of startup offers and being picky what company/stage they were responding to, or were still in grief mode and not ready to start looking, or maybe (probably!) my reach-out finesse was lacking.

But I'm just pointing out that their are definitely companies like mine who are hiring and it's not all doom and gloom for laid off folks.

I ended up hiring via ads on LinkedIn and job posts on eng message boards.

Being real for a minute: There is definitely a perspective among hiring companies that regular lay offs are sometimes packaged alongside bottom performers, but I think that is something they would just do diligence on during an interview process.

biinui · 3 years ago
May I know what these eng message boards are? :D
biinui commented on Ask HN: Math books that made you significantly better at math?    · Posted by u/optbuild
Philip-J-Fry · 3 years ago
I had the same idea.

I bought myself a Remarkable 2 and signed up to Khan Academy. Now I'm revising algebra basics and I plan to go as advanced as Khan Academy lets me.

I was really bad at maths in school (UK A Levels). But I'm a successful software developer today. I felt like knowing more advanced maths could make me a better developer and not feel intimidated by a lot of the things I see.

I'm actually enjoying it as well. Maths isn't just something I have to do to get out of school, now it's something I want to do. And it gives me the same satisfaction as solving puzzles like sudoku.

I'd recommend it to anyone. The Remarkable 2 is actually really nice to write on too, since I want to store my notes digitally. And I make so many mistakes when writing, so undo is great.

biinui · 3 years ago
Sorry, out of topic. May I know what's your definition of success? I've been doing software development for 10 years but success seems to be always on the horizon.
biinui commented on Quitting the rat race   seanbarry.dev/posts/quitt... · Posted by u/seanbarry
nicolas_ · 3 years ago
I’m earning the most money I’ve ever made and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been even. It doesn't mean everything in my life is perfect, far from it, but that money is a huge help.

Doubling my salary and being paid what I am worth by doing what I wanted to do brought me a peace of mind I never had in the last five years (since I immigrated to a new country). I do not have to worry about so many things anymore, it's truly amazing and liberating. I can focus on what truly matters. I can take risks. I can plan for the future without having to go to the depression realm of looking for a better paying job.

Did I hate the jobs I did before? Some of them, but the money aspect stressed me a thousand times more than the work itself. When you don't like your job and do not have the money, you have to worry about both. When it's only your job, you know what to focus on and if you have enough savings, you can be bold and take risks.

A few years ago, I read this NYT article titled "Your Job Will Never Love You Back" [1] and that tagline is stuck in my head since then. Your work doesn't define you and even your dream work will have boring parts.

I'd suggest to go to therapy to focus and work on yourself. Better days are yet to come!

[1] https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/24/business/your-job-will-ne...

biinui · 3 years ago
If you don't mind, which country did you come from and immigrated to? :)
biinui commented on Quitting the rat race   seanbarry.dev/posts/quitt... · Posted by u/seanbarry
krisroadruck · 3 years ago
As a counter-point, I spent about 5 years pretty miserable between 3 different jobs - my complaints where the same at each organization. The profit motive was being put above all else, including employee well being, an actually high-quality service, and in some cases baseline ethics. People were constantly pressured into working more than they should, both in the short term (too many hours per week) and in the long term - vacation time that was hard or impossible to actually take. Overpromising and understaffing/tooling led to constant crunches, corner cutting, rushed low-quality deliverables, and constant fear - either that a client would be lost and blame would be placed, or that a bad client that should go would be retained to the teams detriment. Often all of this was paved over by toxic positivity. You point out the problems and they say "Look on the bright side. You are being too negative. It'll all shake out". Just pure gaslighting bullshit.

After the 3rd such place, and a complete inability to effect change - I threw in the towel and started my own agency 2 years ago. From the outset I made the purpose of the company to be quality of life, not profit. Fewer clients/hours per team member, more time to execute and put out work you are proud to hang your hat on. No assholes (teammates OR clients).

For the entirety of the past 2 years, including the hard bits of actually getting it off the ground and getting those first few customers, the difference has been night and day. My stress levels are the lowest they've been in years. My relationship with my wife is better. I never dread Monday, and rarely pine for Friday. Sometimes it really is the environment, and sometimes that environment is pervasive in a particular industry.

biinui · 3 years ago
Sorry if this is inappropriate. Are you hiring native Android+iOS developer? :)
biinui commented on Quitting the rat race   seanbarry.dev/posts/quitt... · Posted by u/seanbarry
BizarreByte · 3 years ago
It’s a short piece, but it resonates with me, specifically this part:

> I’m earning the most money I’ve ever made and yet I’m the least fulfilled I’ve ever been.

I’m making the most I’ve ever made and I’ve never been less happy and more depressed. I despise being a cog in a huge corporate machine, it’s like the job was designed to be as unappealing as possible.

At the same time I can’t get over the fact that I have it better than the vast majority of humanity. I feel guilty hating my job, I won’t complain to people IRL because how could I? I have it made by all accounts. This guilt completely consumes me and adds a special level of self hatred, if I’m not happy with this, maybe I never will be?

Unlike the author though I can’t just quit, so endure it I must.

biinui · 3 years ago
If you don't mind and sorry for being insensitive, why can't you just quit?
biinui commented on Ask HN: What are the foundational texts for learning about AI/ML/NN?    · Posted by u/mfrieswyk
jtmcmc · 3 years ago
This was one of the first books my advisor told me to read when I started my ML phd a...long time ago. The fundamentals of machine learning haven't changed and it's a great book.
biinui · 3 years ago
May I know what your dissertation was? :)

u/biinui

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