Bancakes (u/Bancakes)

Bancakes commented on Tech employees are getting the message: Playtime's over businessinsider.com/tech-... · Posted by u/robinhouston

piva00 · a year ago

> This “masculinity” is stuff is nothing more than therapy-speak, and I wonder where it originated. Some sort of own-the-right subreddit perhaps.

I'd invite you to not come with shallow dismissals and thought-terminating clichés like that.

As much as some in HN tend to dismiss social studies, there's quite a bit of interesting stuff in there, and I find the concept of "precarious manhood" one of those interesting topics trying to be understood since if you are a man you have probably felt what it's like in your life.

Just try to be a bit more curious, might be good for you.

Bancakes · a year ago

I’m not dismissing the concept of masculinity but rather this contemporary pattern of speech that involves terms like “fragile masculinity”. I’ve yet to encounter such a term in clinical psychology literature, but I see it every day on the western internet

Bancakes commented on Tech employees are getting the message: Playtime's over businessinsider.com/tech-... · Posted by u/robinhouston

piva00 · a year ago

Unfortunately some leaders of big tech suffer immensely from fragile masculinity, not that they are fragile or not men, but in the concept that manhood needs to be constantly proven through acts deemed "masculine" (aggressiveness, competition, etc.) or it can be taken away from them. It's an exhausting way to live, even more since under this system your manhood can be taken away from minimal infractions (like Zuck being stubbed by the "real men", fighters, when he was in that UFC match entourage).

Usually when under fragile masculinity, men that need to prove they are masculine lash out into more extreme displays of what they perceive as "masculine", become more aggressive, even more against other ways of living that are seen as less "masculine", like the typical behaviour of some bullied kid turning over into bullying their friends for anything outside of the perceived masculine traits as being "gay". You don't like sports? Gay!

We are seeing this play in real time, Zuck, Musk, Bezos, they all suffer from fragile masculinity, and since the tech world has many other leaders similarly suffering from it then it becomes quite typical herd-behaviour of the ones "down on the totem pole" from these mega-billionaires to follow the lead.

It's all insecure bullshit but on a whole other level of power, and wealth...

Bancakes · a year ago

Yes I’m sure swinging a chainsaw and talking about memes is Musk trying to prove his masculinity. This “masculinity” is stuff is nothing more than therapy-speak, and I wonder where it originated. Some sort of own-the-right subreddit perhaps.

Bancakes commented on The Internet Slum: is abandoning the Internet the next big thing? (2004) fourmilab.ch/documents/ne... · Posted by u/kimi

INTPenis · a year ago

Yes the internet will become a slum of AI robots and loners.

What we need is a government sponsored regulated social media where we identify ourselves with eID, so that anything you do or say is actually tied to your person. Americans won't understand this but many European countries are already primed for it.

If you want to go slumming you're free to do so, but I want a stable and safe social media as an alternative.

Bancakes · a year ago

First we need social media infrastructure that isn’t made for quick dopamine hits.

Bancakes commented on Optimal brain process requires balance between excitatory and inhibitory neurons phys.org/news/2025-03-opt... · Posted by u/WaitWaitWha

Malcolmlisk · a year ago

In the first year or psychology you learn a lot of words and scientifical language. One of those words you learn is the "homeostasis". Which means the balance between highs and lows and how crucial is for a healthy life. You can study it in basic conditioning (a balance between stimuly, or you can create learned helplessness), in personality (a balance between happyness and depression makes you happier than the happiest person in the world), neuropsychology... and any other field with the same theory behind. So yeah, having balance between everything in your life is the most important thing you can achieve.

Bancakes · a year ago

“The Molecule of More” is a really good science based book on exactly that - drive, reward, and inhibition. I don’t know a better source that explains dopamine-and-friends in a more concise yet palatable way.

Would you recommend any literature?

Bancakes commented on Mozilla flamed by Firefox fans after reneging on promises to not sell their data theregister.com/2025/03/0... · Posted by u/tempodox

mre · a year ago

If you're looking for a Firefox fork, a couple of options come to mind:

- Floorp (https://floorp.app) - Zen (https://zen-browser.app) - Mullvad Browser (https://mullvad.net/browser) - LibreWolf (https://librewolf.net) - WaterFox (https://www.waterfox.net)

Besides that, there's also Brave and perhaps Chromium.

Bancakes · a year ago

Specifically, ungoogled chromium

Bancakes commented on Self hosted FLOSS fitness/workout tracker github.com/wger-project/w... · Posted by u/freemh

Bancakes · a year ago

Can’t import from Apple Health. Looks promising but this is a major draw back.

Bancakes commented on Teen on Musk's DOGE team graduated from 'The Com' krebsonsecurity.com/2025/... · Posted by u/mmsc

basementcat · a year ago

This is a common type of argument that my friends and colleagues have offered me. Perhaps it doesn't make sense to help with wildfire relief because my house didn't burn down. Perhaps it doesn't make sense to have concerns about systemd because I use BSD. Perhaps it is a waste of resources to ensure HIV positive people have access to medicine because I don't have HIV.

Bancakes · a year ago

I’m sure my democratically elected representatives will have a conversation with your democratically elected representatives about these issues.

Bancakes commented on Teen on Musk's DOGE team graduated from 'The Com' krebsonsecurity.com/2025/... · Posted by u/mmsc

Bancakes · a year ago

No I live in Europe. And if I didn’t I wouldn’t worry about it until there’s armed men in uniforms and red armbands walking the streets. I’ve found the best coping mechanism to the overabundance and inflation of information due to the internet, is to simply live within your horizon. I see no musk/trump, I fear no musk/trump. Have a great day, hope your cortisol levels are good.

Bancakes commented on Teen on Musk's DOGE team graduated from 'The Com' krebsonsecurity.com/2025/... · Posted by u/mmsc

dkjaudyeqooe · a year ago

> All: please don't post the sort of low-information / high-indignation comment that could just as easily appear in any semi-related thread. Such generic comments make the discussion less interesting and more activating. That's not what we're trying for here.

We'd love to have the sort of useful discussion you're aiming for, but all new discussions that reference Musk are being systematically flagged by apparent supporters of Musk.

We're being censored.

Bancakes · a year ago

Not everyone is censoring you. Some of us want to learn about cool technology, not read politics irrelevant to daily life.