I have a lot of tech / healthcare couples in my friend group and this is definitely the arrangement. Especially true since healthcare careers have very different timelines than tech.
In once instance, one partner is a clinician and absolutely has to be on site 5 days a week, not counting on-call. The other works 100% remote but the company is global, so depending on the week they may be on Europe time or Australia time.
This is definitely a work arrangement I couldn't have imagined being common 10 years ago. This shift will likely be one of the defining economic changes between the 10's and the 20's.
Not all that surprising - "care work" of all kinds, at least if going by distribution of unpaid care work [1], kindergarten [2] and later education [3] or nursing [4], is utterly dominated by women. Almost all care work by definition has to be done at the workplace, whereas (as we discovered in Covid) a lot of traditional "men jobs" (i.e. almost everything outside of mining, industry and security) can be done from home.
It's going to be an interesting next few years, as this shift can and does have serious implications not just on workplace and work condition equality question, but also if it will fuel further discontent among those men who have to go commute to a workplace vs those men who can enjoy the ability to work from home.
Decades ago, I knew two couples doing the "she heads off to work, he stays at home" thing.
Both husbands were doing essentially non-remote work at home (academia and a home-office business). And had multiple children to look after, at home, as part of the deal.
I never thought about it before reading this but most couples I know fall into this category. Probably because they largely fit the "tech guy marries non-tech gal" stereotype.
I don't know that it means anything, but I'm a tech guy married to a tech gal and we still fit this category. In our case, it's because her work project is classified. The company itself allows full-remote work if your project is unclassified, but you can't get a SCIF in your house.
It's amusing to me that this article claims it is usually the case that the husband is still not cooking and cleaning even though he's home. I'm cooking and cleaning all the damn time. With all the time spent at home, cooking has become my favorite hobby. I am quite often sneaking in prep for some elaborate, showy dinner while waiting for a build to finish or on a call that doesn't require me to present or speak.
I didn’t read that part as saying “they’re not doing these things at all”, just that they’re not staying home them specifically to do them… they’re not “employed” as a “homemaker”, they are working from home. Unclear if you read it this way or are just commenting that you do more of those and you used to, several sibling comments seem to take, from your comment or the article, that this was a focus, and I don’t think it was?
You're assuming it needs "fixing". A different possibility is that people are choosing the things they prefer and what you see if biased by those preferences. In the latter scenario there's no need to "fix" anything.
something to be said about 'sexes in the workplace' here. women continue to make real progress toward equal representation in the physical workplace, which inevitably detracts from time for domestic responsibilities; and apparently a fair number of men are now taking their careers home, to the extent that it permits them to maintain some degree of organizational 'presence', while inevitably taking on more domestic responsibility. remarkable sorta-flip for sure.
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In once instance, one partner is a clinician and absolutely has to be on site 5 days a week, not counting on-call. The other works 100% remote but the company is global, so depending on the week they may be on Europe time or Australia time.
This is definitely a work arrangement I couldn't have imagined being common 10 years ago. This shift will likely be one of the defining economic changes between the 10's and the 20's.
It's going to be an interesting next few years, as this shift can and does have serious implications not just on workplace and work condition equality question, but also if it will fuel further discontent among those men who have to go commute to a workplace vs those men who can enjoy the ability to work from home.
[1] https://www.weforum.org/publications/global-gender-gap-repor...
[2] https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2024/02/12/over-96-...
[3] https://stats.oecd.org/Index.aspx?DataSetCode=EAG_PERS_SHARE... (you have to change the filter to "Pre-primary to tertiary education", then scroll down to the totalization rows at the bottom)
[4] https://www.statista.com/statistics/1099804/distribution-of-...
Both husbands were doing essentially non-remote work at home (academia and a home-office business). And had multiple children to look after, at home, as part of the deal.
It's amusing to me that this article claims it is usually the case that the husband is still not cooking and cleaning even though he's home. I'm cooking and cleaning all the damn time. With all the time spent at home, cooking has become my favorite hobby. I am quite often sneaking in prep for some elaborate, showy dinner while waiting for a build to finish or on a call that doesn't require me to present or speak.
You don't fit the narrative, so most likely cases like yours are being ignored.
Have you tried having a contractor follow ICD 705?
https://www.dni.gov/files/Governance/IC-Tech-Specs-for-Const...
like charged windows to protect from TEMPTEST emissions, etc.