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deebosong commented on Quit Being a Cynic at Work. It's Holding You Back   wsj.com/lifestyle/workpla... · Posted by u/JumpCrisscross
swatcoder · 2 years ago
Are we done with championing "authenticity", then?

For many, cynicsm at work is the authentic expression of their relationship to work: it's required to make the world go around and pay one's bills, but a lot of the work that needs doing isn't glamorous, efficient, stimulating, or enriching. It just needs doing, by someone who's willing to do it.

Being "a cynic" can indeed hold one back from other opportunities, but maybe those other opportunities aren't that appealing to the "cynic" either?

Is it okay for people to just be themselves, do what needs doing, and then go home to a life one prefers?

deebosong · 2 years ago
My take is:

Toxic positivity is just as bad as toxic negativity.

Cynicism seems to fall under toxic negativity, in that it presumes negative intent before even finding out if it's true.

I think the article suggests being willing to find out, and take a stand towards choosing to influence your immediate circle to be allies, comrades, amongst fellow "soldiers in the trenches together," rather than just assuming everyone's in it for themselves and therefore there's no point in giving effort to be human towards one another.

I do like what the author says at the end, that even if our influence may seem tiny and insignificant, that it has impact if we notice.

I do think cynicism can be cancerous. I don't equate cynicism with a realistic assessment of an actually bad situation (which is where toxic positivity will want to bypass, brush it under the rug, stick their head in the sand, etc.).

deebosong commented on Letting go of the idea of keeping up   reactormag.com/on-letting... · Posted by u/bingden
steviem · 2 years ago
I read around 150 books a year. Most of it is what I like to call "shitlit", or alternatively inconsequential literature.

This does not mean I am better or worse than anyone, just that my default state is reading. Friends eventually read books when recommended them and we talk about then.

Reading shouldnt be a target, it should be for enjoyment. I enjoy shitlit, but others may not.

deebosong · 2 years ago
Respect.

I'm gonna start using "shitlit" from hereon out.

And also, there are people I respect who said they read 100+ books a year, and that you should, too. But while others in my circles were eager to jump on the train, for me, I thought it would be performative, and be about having read said 100+ books than digesting any of it. And what more, I recall that I best retain info via reading if I have skin in the game, rather than feeling like reading makes me appear more approvable to others.

All that is to say, it's good to hear from someone who reads a ton that a lot of your reading is kinda junk stuff (even if 150+ books a year is still a crazy metric – and as a tangent, people who ride bikes a ton say that a lot of their miles they rack up are junk miles, so I'm sure there's an equivalent of shitlit in any pursuit/ hobby/ interest/ endeavor).

deebosong commented on So You Want to be a Big Shot: Advice on playing the promotion game   davidreiscto.substack.com... · Posted by u/davidreisbr
rr808 · 2 years ago
The vast majority of devs are under 30. Already most people are "senior" after 5 years experience. What are we going to do when this cohort wants to get promoted into architects and managers in 10-20 years time? There just aren't enough senior jobs.
deebosong · 2 years ago
Just make up new titles.

Super Senior. Super Senior II. Hyper Senior II Turbo. Super Senior: Ultra Instinct.

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deebosong commented on F-Zero courses from a dead Nintendo satellite service restored using VHS and AI   arstechnica.com/gaming/20... · Posted by u/ramn7
somat · 2 years ago
I am convinced f-zero and metroid are in the same universe, in the core you have big cities, the ultimate motor-sport, and bounty-hunters like capt falcon, on the periphery, dead civilizations, space pirates, and bounty hunters like Samus Aaron.

Now, admittedly, this is mainly based on them being based in the far future and having the same art style. But you have to admit Samus would not look out of place racing in Big-Blue

deebosong · 2 years ago
My world is richer for reading this. I absolutely can see it. Like Redline meets Cowboy Bebop. Both can be b-side vignettes in a larger futuristic SNES world. Not so sure about Star Fox being in the mix, but not entirely out of the question either. But F-Zero & Metroid is a wonderful pairing.
deebosong commented on Getting rid of bed bugs: trickier than ever   knowablemagazine.org/cont... · Posted by u/fortran77
RajT88 · 2 years ago
They are creepy, but they eat baddies.

The last time one showed up in our bathroom, my wife yelled at me to "Stop marveling at it!"

It was the biggest one I had ever seen, close to 3 inches. RIP Uber-coleoptrata scutigera!

deebosong · 2 years ago
This is frickin hilarious. Your awe and wonder at it, your wife's repulsion, and your eulogy hahaha
deebosong commented on How Inuit Parents Teach Kids To Control Their Anger (2019)   npr.org/sections/goatsand... · Posted by u/toomuchtodo
filleduchaos · 2 years ago
> You are describing moral outrage.

That's simply a fancy label for a particular kind of anger, as one might be able to tell from the literal definition of outrage: an extremely strong reaction of anger, shock, or indignation.

In my opinion there are few things quite as pathetic as people who twist themselves into pretzels to avoid acknowledging their emotions for what they are. Certain emotions are "bad" (anger, jealousy, etc), and so instead of addressing it when they feel those things, they just convince themselves that they aren't actually feeling them at all and that their reactions are driven by some higher logic or nobler emotion - all while still inflicting their emotional fallout on those around them.

deebosong · 2 years ago
I side with this school of thought.

Just call the emotions what they are, accept them in the form of not dressing them up and putting some spin on them to make people feel better about themselves (and ultimately dance around the actual emotion, via forms of denial, bypassing, etc.). And once you accept them for the simple, unadorned, and sometimes unflattering things that they are, you can then process them, and decide via understanding the root causes, contexts, and triggers, to then map out decision trees for how to respond to those feelings and emotions as the best course of action.

And like you mentioned, if you don't address the actual emotions and try to pretty them up, you're gonna leak out the actual emotions sideways, and cause unnecessary strain to those around you, and ultimately place your burden of being responsible for your emotions on others, and most likely throw up a big stink (in the form of projection, more denial, more bypassing, etc.).

Emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and responsibility are very difficult but necessary things, and they often times are unflattering. But like also many other things, there's no shortcuts to learning how to manage and deal with them in real situations with real stakes.

deebosong commented on You are what you love   gspanos.tech/posts/facts-... · Posted by u/gspanos
boredemployee · 2 years ago
Well. The paragraph below really comes at a good time,

>> Emotion cannot be separate from work. It has to be a part of it. When working, you’re expressing yourself. You express beliefs, opinions, and strategies, world views. You cannot detach yourself completely from work. I doubt that you ever should.

because 2 days ago I had a discussion with the owner of the company I work for (and, therefore, my boss), where I told him that we are going through a bizarre moment and that one of our colleagues was in pieces when talking to me.

He asked if that affected me, and I said that obviously it does, it's a person suffering, a person I like and who delivers a lot of value to the company.

He replied saying: "Well, it shouldn't, only our family should affect us in that aspect."

Then, finally, I understood what these people really think. They use us just to achieve their goals, the whole idea of team/squad is, in the end, a big fallacy.

deebosong · 2 years ago
Your boss sounds like they have an extremely rigid view of what emotions are and aren't "correct" in any given setting. Sounds controlling, and lacking a fundamental understanding of reality, people, and basic empathy.

I don't think all bosses are like this, but the ones who express these views in critical junctures that reveal their character and world views as such, I think it's safe to say that they indeed are intellectually and developmentally blunted (of the emotional intelligence, interpersonal relationship, and leadership dynamics variety) in a manner that can cause legitimate harm to anyone under their authority and has to take orders from them.

deebosong commented on Cork is displacing plastics and creating a billion-dollar industry   washingtonpost.com/climat... · Posted by u/andrewl
tomcam · 2 years ago
Sure, downvote my pain, you monsters
deebosong · 2 years ago
Your corn-based pain amuses me, cretin. I'll deign some packets of cane sugar to alleviate your pathetic woes.

(Honestly, HFCS prob has wreaked legit havoc via the "death by 1000 papercuts" method.)

deebosong commented on Bartkira: The Simpsons and Akira   bartkira.com... · Posted by u/tetris11
mysterypie · 2 years ago
I don't understand the extreme amount of work that people put into works like this that could be shut down forever at the whim of the copyright holder.

"There is ongoing debate about to what extent fan fiction is permitted under contemporary copyright law. Some argue that fan fiction does not fall under fair use, as it is derivative work. The 2009 ruling by United States District Court permanently prohibiting publication in the United States of a book may be seen as upholding this position." [1]

Unless we can greatly reduce the length of copyright terms and/or clarify that fan fiction is allowed, you might as well create only original works so your months or years of work doesn't go to waste.

Update: From the link another HN user found, it says, "The Bartkira organizers knew that Matt Groening had seen a copy but to date have never received a cease and desist order. As an extra defense, Harvey decided to donate all of the book's profits to charity [including] Save the Children, a charity preferred by the late The Simpsons co-creator Sam Simon."

So the creators are walking on eggshells, making sure they don't earn a cent and hoping the copyright holders don't sue one day.

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fan_fiction#Legality

deebosong · 2 years ago
Because it's awesome and fun to do. And rare copies will exist for a select few to share to select parties who would absolutely love to experience the contraband underground work.

u/deebosong

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