Part of it was that I had a breakdown. That was unpleasant. But ultimately it was part of the process. (Not to say this is necessarily true of everyone!) This forced me to quit my job. I have a one track mind, so I couldn't really do the work on myself I needed while I was working. I hope this isn't necessary for you or anyone else though.
When I was breaking down, I lashed out at the people in my life. I made things very hard for them. But they forgave me and supported me. Sometimes I have a mad instinct to smash everything and start over. But they didn't let me push them away.
Reading the Zhuangzi helped me to conceptualize why I allowed myself to be burned out and didn't do anything about it until I was a wreck. In particular, there's a refrain about people who are useful being ground down by being put to use. I realized that I invested my identity in being useful to others, and my team especially, because I didn't respect myself enough to be useless. I didn't value myself outside of being valuable to others. That attitude will inevitably burn you out.
Studying Zen and Taoism and meditating has helped a lot. Partly it's just a very different perspective from what I'm normally exposed to, so it broadens my horizons and helps me take things less seriously. The Zen notion of "practicing" with a problem is a perspective I find really valuable.
I started therapy and I started taking an antidepressant. This was a mixed bag, my therapist ended up moving away and I think I need to change my medication, but I think it was an important step. Something I struggled with was that I didn't understand the mechanism of action behind therapy and I didn't really see any benefit in any particular session. But I've also had to accept that I just don't understand what I need in my life, I think I do but I'm constantly proven wrong, so not being able to see why something is helping doesn't actually mean it isn't.
Similarly, my medication doesn't seem to do anything. But there have been a few times I've had a really hard day, and then when I'm taking my meds in the evening, I realize I had forgotten yesterday. I also think the lows haven't been as low.
About a year and a half after my breakdown, I had a profound spiritual experience I'm not entirely comfortable discussing, you might call it a breakthrough. None of these things caused it. But I think they were all preconditions. I'm not "fixed," and in the intervening time I've had depressive episodes and panic attacks on occasion. But I was "fixed" for ten glorious days, and it proved to me that, regardless of whether such a thing can be permanent, it is possible.
This is a lovely phrase. Is it an idiom or your own creation?
Beautifully said. I'm glad to hear that you feel hope for rekindling this feeling. It sounds like you've already figured this out, but I want to highlight that this a symptom of burnout, and that people who resonate with this should take it seriously.
I remember once I was helping someone at work who was learning Python. They were having trouble understanding how binary file types worked. When it clicked for them, they were so delighted.
I realized I hadn't felt that way in years. It wasn't long after that I realized I was too burned out to stay in my position, and needed to take some time to work on my mental health.
If you don't mind sharing, what did you do to improve your mental health?
It was fun, it was challenging, it was rewarding, it was amazing.
Now that I’m working, with the endless stream of new technologies, the debates of X considered harmful, J is better than K, and a barrage of never ending new things. It started to numb my mind.
Somehow, those joyful feeling of engineering no longer feels like the blue sky. I think its still blue, but for an eye washed in silvers, everything looks gray.
Reading this story somehow light up that childhood feeling of me learning software engineering. It can still be fun. I can still write things for the sake of me and not for the sake of exit nor a new shiny SaaS.
Thank your for writing this. It gave me a ray of hope that it can still be fun.
What if there's a bug in the calendar for Ramadan or Salah?
That’s why if a scholar based with intensive research and data, has concluded that X is true. If in the end its really true, they’ll receive two rewards; when its debunked and it was actually false, they receive one reward. The sin is to be ignorant and without any research and data concluded that X is true.
Specifically for Ramadan, the guideline is to use Moon sighting. If you see a new moon, then you begin fasting. If not, then you postpone for a day before starting Ramadan. Usually there’s a committee that does this and they will announce the result. But it doesn’t prevent anyone with the ability to observe to decide when to start Ramadan.
Salah guideline is the sun, e.g the dawn prayer is when there’s thin strike of the sun on the horizon. So to calculate the prayer time you use the sun position relative to your position on earth. If there’s a bug that somehow err the prayer time to ~5 minutes. We can always observe the sun first.
So there’s always this second factor that you can use to validate the first method. Time seems off? Look at the sun. Sun not visible? Estimate with time. Both seems off? Estimate with the variables that you can observe.
“ God does not burden any soul with more than it can bear “ (Al Baqarah 286)
——- So to answer the question, the tolerance depends on your effort on trying to reduce the err.
God knows best
I used this approach because most platforms supports islamic calendar.
I really like the offline first approach, and would definitely use the library when there’s a need.
Thanks for sharing!
IIRC, it started from my resignation. Then we kept doing it for future leavers
I never owned a pro-camera, only a smartphone. So, reading this article now I learned that it was washed and unsaturated for a good reason. Is this Log thing 15 pro specific or its software so that we can use it on an older iPhone?
An app that can turn anything into adorable stickers. In my region, people uses WhatsApp a lot, and there's this ability to create custom stickers. So we uses a lot of stickers on a conversation.